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Tue, 03-04-2014 - 11:20am

1. Are you giving up anything for Lent?

2. Did you go away for college or stay home and commute? Did your/will your children go away or commute for college?

3. Do you have a certain time you turn on or turn off your heat for the season?

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 11:23am

These were ALL my posts on this subject. Nothing about wasting time. Thanks anyway for the debate, but there is not one, because I never implied, indicated or said it was a waste of time. Thanks.

Can I ask why she doesn't just commute? I have heard some stories lately of kids staying at schools that are close to their homes, some just 15-20 minutes away. Doesn't make sense to me to go that close and not stay home.

I do too. I just think it is a waste of money to live on a dorm that is so close to home. I would rather give them more freedom at home, being in college, and take that money that would have been spent on a dorm and food plan and give it to them when they graduate, get a job and start off.
I agree if it is far away from home. 15-20 minutes away, not sure if I would think the money would be worth it as you can still be involved (even hang out at the dorms with new friends you make and do things with these new friends as I would give more freedom at home for that) and not have to pay the dorm and food fee. 

How are you going to simulate a dorm like experience in your home?

Where did I say I would or could in my home?

You didn't, which is why I asked the question.  The question follows your comments that talk about living on campus if close to be a waste of time,

I didnt say it was a waste of time. 

Again, where did I say a waste of time? Why would you question something I did not say? When you quote me where I said it was a waste of time, we can continue. Laughing

There is where a waste of time was implied imo, giving that you are talking about time and distance.  But if you say it wasn't about waste of time here, what does time and distance have to do with anything?

So IYO it was implied. Gotcha. Never said it, as I said before so I guess there is no debate here. Thanks. 

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 12:10pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><strong>These were ALL my posts on this subject. Nothing about wasting time. Thanks anyway for the debate, but there is not one, because I never implied, indicated or said it was a waste of time. Thanks.</strong></p><p><span style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px">Can I ask why she doesn't just commute? I have heard some stories lately of kids staying at schools that are close to their homes, some just 15-20 minutes away. Doesn't make sense to me to go that close and not stay home.</span></p><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px"></div><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px">I do too. I just think it is a waste of money to live on a dorm that is so close to home. I would rather give them more freedom at home, being in college, and take that money that would have been spent on a dorm and food plan and give it to them when they graduate, get a job and start off.</div><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px"></div><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px">I agree if it is far away from home. 15-20 minutes away, not sure if I would think the money would be worth it as you can still be involved (even hang out at the dorms with new friends you make and do things with these new friends as I would give more freedom at home for that) and not have to pay the dorm and food fee. </div><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px"></div><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px"><p style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; text-align:left">How are you going to simulate a dorm like experience in your home?</p><p style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; text-align:left">Where did I say I would or could in my home?</p></div><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px"></div><div style="color:#000000; font-family:Calibri, sans-serif; font-size:14px"><p style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; text-align:left">You didn't, which is why I asked the question.  The question follows your comments that talk about living on campus if close to be a waste of time,</p><p style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didnt say it was a waste of time. </p><p style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, where did I say a waste of time? Why would you question something I did not say? When you quote me where I said it was a waste of time, we can continue. <img src="http://www.ivillage.com/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></p><p style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; text-align:left">There is where a waste of time was implied imo, giving that you are talking about time and distance.  But if you say it wasn't about waste of time here, what does time and distance have to do with anything?</p><p style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p>So IYO it was implied. Gotcha. Never said it, as I said before so I guess there is no debate here. Thanks. </p></div>

You are both thanking me for the debate and stating there isn't one in the same sentence.  I explained, multiple times about the implication of the waste of time, I amended my post to reflect the removal of that small point, and still the tangent is on waste of time instead of addressing  the amended post.   Curious, as I said before.  

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 12:37pm

<<So IYO it was implied. Gotcha. Never said it, as I said before so I guess there is no debate here. Thanks. >>

There is, imo, potential for a real debate here.  On the pros cons of a college student living at home instead of on campus.  It could be quite interesting.

Alas, you're too hung up on whether or not not you said or didn't say or implied or didn't imply somethign to debate the real issue.

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 12:55pm

grapthars_hammer wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">geschichtsgal</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;just_another_marla&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;He really loves physics and is giddy at the sheer thought of astrophysics, so maybe he'll move away to some exotic campus, or maybe he'll just stay home with mom and dad and commute to the University of Michigan. We won't know for a few years :) &lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;It's hard to find a much better school than U of Michigan for a whole heck of a lot of majors.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Don't say that around my DIL, who is a hardcore Ohio State fan :D</p>

My sister & bil met because she was wearing a University of Michigan sweatshirt and he had to make a comment because he's an Ohio State fan.  We learned the UofM fight song in elementary school, lol.

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 1:13pm

My daughter doesn't commute because 1) she wants the residential college experience (it's not a commuter school) and 2) it's required for all first-years to live on campus in a residence hall. Also, it's 30 minutes on a good day, with no traffic and good weather. 

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 1:18pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p>&lt;&lt;So IYO it was implied. Gotcha. Never said it, as I said before so I guess there is no debate here. Thanks. &gt;&gt;</p><p>There is, imo, potential for a real debate here.  On the pros cons of a college student living at home instead of on campus.  It could be quite interesting.</p><p>Alas, you're too hung up on whether or not not you said or didn't say or implied or didn't imply somethign to debate the real issue.</p>

I agree, it is an interesting subject and one that many of us have faced, are facing or will face in the next few years.  There are also many schools that require their students to live on campus as a freshman.  Living on campus and off campus both have a set of pros and cons, I think it comes down to what is important for the family if the school doesn't have requirement and money isn't an issue.

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 2:02pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;So IYO it was implied. Gotcha. Never said it, as I said before so I guess there is no debate here. Thanks. &amp;gt;&amp;gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;There is, imo, potential for a real debate here.  On the pros cons of a college student living at home instead of on campus.  It could be quite interesting.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Alas, you're too hung up on whether or not not you said or didn't say or implied or didn't imply somethign to debate the real issue.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I agree, it is an interesting subject and one that many of us have faced, are facing or will face in the next few years.  There are also many schools that require their students to live on campus as a freshman.  Living on campus and off campus both have a set of pros and cons, I think it comes down to what is important for the family if the school doesn't have requirement and money isn't an issue.</p>

Some schools will lift that on-campus residency requirement if the student will be living with a parent.  We have that here.

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 6:13pm

ashmama wrote:
<p>My daughter doesn't commute because 1) she wants the residential college experience (it's not a commuter school) and 2) it's required for all first-years to live on campus in a residence hall. Also, it's 30 minutes on a good day, with no traffic and good weather. </p>

Both of the colleges that my DDs attended had the live on campus requirement with some exceptions.  One of those exceptions was living at home and commmuting. 

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 7:02pm

I had told my DDs that if they went to college locally then they would live at home.  Totally financial reasons.  We did not have a college fund and used loans for a lot of the college expences.  But re-thinking it , it probably would not have been a good choice. There would have been a lot of time spent on the commute which could be better used.  

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 7:23pm

geschichtsgal wrote:
It's hard to find a much better school than U of Michigan for a whole heck of a lot of majors.

This is true. 

My husband actually turned down a full ride to U of M, believe it or not. He joined the Navy instead.