Friday Five

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Friday Five
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Fri, 03-08-2013 - 10:01am

1.  What did you last eat

2.  What is for dinner tonight

3.  What is the most expensive piece(s) of furniture you own and how long have you had it

4.  What is your clothing style

5.  What are your weekend plans

 

*Don't forget to change your clocks ahead this weekend*

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-07-2013
Mon, 03-11-2013 - 11:25am

I have heard people doing that too Jam, putting the money toward a charity.

I don't get the "don't bring anything" to a party though. I went to a 60th anniversary one time and they requested no gifts. I couldn't come empty handed so I got them flowers. Just a gesture to say congratulations and thank you for inviting me to your party and special day.

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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 11:19am

My brother and his second wife were both married before, They didn't register for gifts but they both lost mothers to breast cancer and added that cause as a donation if guest wanted, I forget how it was worded on the invitation but it was elegant. 

 

 

Macklemore wrote:
<p>We have a wedding this summer (good friends who are actually going away with us on their honeymoon and our "second" honeymoon-20th anniversary). Groom was married before. They live together in the home he bought years ago. I don't think they "need" things for their home but if they have a shower I am sure she will register. I am personally giving cash (check) at the reception (because we don't give gifts at the wedding, only at the shower). </p>

 

 

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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 11:15am

Just for weddings or for every type of gift?

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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 11:02am
I know that in your area/culture, Maclemore, that giving money is accepted and expected, but in ours, giving money to adults is kind of an insult. And we didn't want gift cards, either. Still don't, but we get them every year. I have a drawer at home that must have three dozen of them in it. Every once in awhile we find a use for one of them, or a place to donate it.
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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 10:57am

I think it would be more appropriate to give money or gift cards in that situation then. 

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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 10:33am
I was really glad that most of the guests at our wedding got the message that e preferred no gifts. We had just put all of our stff in storage, had no home at the time, and were leaving to spend a year in Europe. We did get a few things that we left with my sister-in-law to enjoy. She was he guest who lived closest to the resort where we got married, so she ended up with the goods!
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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 10:04am

I think it is harder to buy gifts for "older" people getting married as they usually (if they lived on their own) have their homes set up with everything they need (and want). I couldn't go to a wedding though without giving something and even if it was just a nice bottle of wine and maybe a gift card. Something to celebrate the marriage with the couple.

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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 9:50am

When I got married for the second time we didn't register nor ask for gifts b/c we really didn't need anything with two 'mature' households combining. We toyed briefly with the idea of one of those "honeymoon trip' registries but later decided against it... the result was some folks gave us monetary gifts, some gave more 'traditional' gifts, some gave nothing and a WHOLE bunch of folks who know us well gave us wine... ;-)   

when we combined households our combined pantries and bathrooms had so many duplicate items we joked that guests at our wedding would recieve either a bottle of olive oil, a bag of powdered sugar, a bottle of shampoo, or a can of bread crumbs  as a favor...

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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 9:37am

We have a wedding this summer (good friends who are actually going away with us on their honeymoon and our "second" honeymoon-20th anniversary). Groom was married before. They live together in the home he bought years ago. I don't think they "need" things for their home but if they have a shower I am sure she will register. I am personally giving cash (check) at the reception (because we don't give gifts at the wedding, only at the shower). 

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Mon, 03-11-2013 - 8:19am

bordwithyou wrote:
In that case I would certainly give a gift, Empty. Not a huge one, but something to mark the occasion of the marriage. I know some people do not want to give a gift for a second marriage if they gave one for the first, on the grounds that age would still have the place setting of bathroom scale or whatever, but since you did not give her anything the first time around, why not a neighborly token?

That is what I am leaning towards because like I said we have always been friendly neighbors.  We moved into our house in 1998 they a year later.  But it took until earlier this month to do anything social together.  They are both veterans and earlier this month DH invited them to join is for dinner at a veterans organization we are acvtive in. 

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