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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 10:09am

Plans for the weekend?

What did you think of the Golden Globe winners and Oscar noms?

Is there some big event happening in your life in 2014? Any major plans you're looking foward to?

What unusual stuff is going on at work right now?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:11pm

Idk, I think its a good natural consquence for not remembering to consult the parent before changing plans if a parent is needed to drive.  

IME, no plans have been changed. These kids have sports until 5:00 everyday. The parents know this.

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:29pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I don't think it's really a big deal, stuff happens.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Oh well, I do. This is my child and I work very hard trying to make plans of when I will pick her/him up or when my dh will pick him/her up or someone else will pick him/her up. I don't leave things like this to chance. I have been the ones to drive home kids like this, not once but a few times and many at that. I guess more parents are like you that thinks that "stuff happens". Emergencies happen, yes, all the time, nope. </span></strong></p>

Which is why I specifically stipulated that I was talking about instances where the kid changed plans or didn't consult me.   I too work very hard trying to make plans - and when the child changes those plans, my hard work is for naught.  I'm speaking of my child leaving things to chance, not me.    And, I wasn't talking "all the time", I specifically said that it was pretty rare.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:30pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Yes, when plans have changed (without parent consent) I have told the kids to find their own rides as well.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">What if they can't find one? </span></strong></p>

As I stated in my examples, the kid might just have to wait until I'm available.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:30pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Idk, I think its a good natural consquence for not remembering to consult the parent before changing plans if a parent is needed to drive.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">IME, no plans have been changed. These kids have sports until 5:00 everyday. The parents know this.</span></strong></p>

PKA and I are speaking for ourselves ... not for these strangers. We're not making excuses for them - we're simply showing examples from our own lives.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:41pm

Plans for the weekend?

Busy, but dinner out with older sons tomorrow for dinner and hunger games movie.

What did you think of the Golden Globe winners and Oscar noms?

I haven't seen most of them, so I don't care,

Is there some big event happening in your life in 2014? Any major plans you're looking foward to?

Nothing big, but I think I'm going to go away somewhere warm just for myself in the next month or two. Me, beach, pina colata, 4 days of mindless bliss. No DH or children

What unusual stuff is going on at work right now?

Performance reviews and bonuses (or lack thereof) of my staff. I deliver the message.

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:42pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Be aware that transfer students are ineligible for most scholarships later on. Just something to consider in your planning. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I don't think that is goes from school to school.</span></strong></p>

There are many scholarships, I haven't even begun to explore all that's out there or if my kiddo will be eligible for one if she starts at a community college.

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:50pm
I imagine my DD will need a car for a job or/and school. But the Y is in walking distance, sadly the zip dip ice cream store is not. So next Summer is going to be an interesting one, And she wants to still horseback ride too.. and camp.. and.....

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 7:58pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I'm not going to disrupt my day, and possibly my job, etc, because my kid tried to pull one over on me or because he decided to break the rules.  If my kid made a poor decision, he is responsible for the consequences.  (the few times this has happened, the kid has sat where he is until we were available to come get him)</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I can see certain circumstances like that. This kid's parents were at home and just didn't want to pick him up. The other girl's mother forgot. How you forget your child is beyond me. </span></strong></p>

I'm sorry but that's insane.  And if my kid tells me she has a ride then calls me and asks me to pick her up it's typically b/c the other arrangement fell through, this has happened with school dances.  Am I supposed to keep her stranded b/c she didn't keep the first arrangement?  I don't aim for perfect, I bend the rules so many times for my kids and I've got good kids. 

 


 


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Registered: 12-22-2013
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 8:03pm

As I stated in my examples, the kid might just have to wait until I'm available.

Yes, that is for you. These kids parents have NO intention of picking them up at all.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 8:06pm

PKA and I are speaking for ourselves ... not for these strangers. We're not making excuses for them - we're simply showing examples from our own lives.

Understood and I am speaking for myself too. It is hard to try and figure out schedules and pick ups. Some parents just leave it up to chance and hope that someone will just take them home. One of the girls I have driven home has actually had to walk home, which was not close at all, a few miles at the very least, on busy streets during rush hour a few times. The parents never figured out pick ups and told her just to walk if she found no one to take her home.

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