Getting out the door in the morning

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Registered: 05-11-2009
Getting out the door in the morning
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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 11:24am

Looking for some suggestions to help morning times go a little more smoothly around here!


My 5yo & 3yo are able to get up, get dressed, and get downstairs... with minimal amounts of cajoling & a healthy dose of siliness from us.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 12:11pm

Here's my suggestion. Have the kids put on their shoes and brush their hair upstairs before breakfast. While preparing breakfast, get the lunches out of the fridge and put on the counter/table. After breakfast, brush teeth downstairs, grab lunches (you hand lunches to kids) and leave. You are attempting to go from point one where you do everything to point 5 where you can expect them to act without supervision. You are skipping point 2 where you direct with both actions and words, point 3 where you direct with words and your presence, and point 4 where you direct with words without your presence. Start with small steps and work your way up to giving them full responsibility. The goal is to give over responsibility for themselves to them but it will take years (up to 18-20 years in fact) to get to that point.

Chris

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 12:37pm

Are they tired or just not morning people?

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 1:02pm

There's a huge difference between knowing how to do a task and having the internal motivation to do it. It takes years to develop that.


I think you need to set an example by being down there with them rather than sending them down to do the tasks without even verbal guidance. If this means brushing your own teeth and hair in the downstairs bathroom, then do it. They'll have a lot more fun if you model what you expect.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 1:40pm

I think 3 is still pretty little to be able to remember to do everything you list. My daughter is almost 4 and she's just starting to understand how to make a list and sequence everything.

What about making a chart with pictures of each thing they are supposed to do (a picture of shoes, a picture of a toothbrush, etc.) and make it a game. When they complete each thing, they check it off. Then, if they complete everything by a certain time of the morning, they get a sticker?

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 2:35pm

3 and 5 are ages kids still need coaching, that slipping in of

 

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 6:57pm

Lots of good advice already.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:00pm
Yes! I agree that a couple of steps in the middle are bing skipped.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:11pm

My kids get up very early, so they have some *wake up time* beofre moving into their morning routine, and also some *playtime* once everything is done, before we have to go out the door.


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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:13pm

by being down there with them rather than sending them down to do the tasks without even verbal guidance.


Yes...they may be able to do *the task* but follow through is whole other story!

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:15pm

I love this idea!


Can I just say that I am the worlds worste at following through with a chart for/with my kids.

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