Getting out the door in the morning

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Getting out the door in the morning
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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 11:24am

Looking for some suggestions to help morning times go a little more smoothly around here!


My 5yo & 3yo are able to get up, get dressed, and get downstairs... with minimal amounts of cajoling & a healthy dose of siliness from us.

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:18pm

Jsut thought that AI would add:


I'm a list maker, and my kids are gleening that from me.

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 8:25pm

I used to write a chore list every day for Dylan to do and check off when each one was done. When the entire list was checked off, he had to show the list to me. Frequently, I would have to point out a chore that he forgot. When everything was done, he could go play, usually on the computer. No other reward and definitely no stickers. Dylan is one of those seemingly rare kids that aren't interested in rewards of any kind. Drove his teachers nuts for years. All of his early elementary teachers used stickers as rewards. Dylan's sticker chart on his desk never had any stickers on it because as soon as he got one, he would pick it off the chart and destroy it absentmindedly.

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 11:31pm

Well for me? I would wait until they were closer to 9 and 7, rather than 5 and 3, before I expected much independence from them in terms of getting ready.

In the meantime, I would create a picture board of their morning "chores" so they have a 'list' to work from. But I wouldn't be surprised if they still need a good bit of supervision.

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 11:58pm

I'm reading this going WOW her 3 and 5 year old do all that?????? I'm so impressed!

You could make a song out of it. Once they are downstairs you can get them to sing "Hair! Teeth! Shoes and Lunch!" As they complete each one it drops from the song. So brush hair and now the song goes "Teeth! Shoes and Lunch" and then "Shoes and Lunch! Shoes and Lunch!" Until all four tasks are done and then they can sing a "done" song that they make up on their own.

I like the idea of a checklist, that they check off.

My dh doesn't bark orders but he does bark the time left until departure. This isn't for the morning routine because we don't have one here really, but for anytime we are all going somewhere. He'll yell "15 minutes!" and then "10 minutes" and "5 minutes" and "heading to the car!" He has the older children convinced he will leave them behind so they pretty much hop to it at least by the time it gets to 5 minutes (it sounds like this: "Fiiiiiiivvvvveeeee minutes!" This isn't really my thing but I have to give him credit, it is very effective.

If none of the suggestions work, I say you might have to wait another year and try again. But if they can do all those things upstairs to get ready then that does suggest they can do the rest if you can find a way to make it work for them. How did you teach them the upstairs routine so that they followed through on that part so effectively?

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 8:12am

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 8:20am

at first glimpse of the OP, that's what i thought too, how impressive that the kids are getting up, dressed on their own.

 

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 8:44am
my 10 YO has a dance recital this weekend, at last night's dress rehearsal, the director was giving out strict rules of how she wanted hair done, all parts must be on right side, perfectly straight, etc!

 

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 8:56am

< my DD who often just has the wake up and go going on with her hair >


That's funny, because I just told DD11 this morning, when she said SHE had to get up so early, that some kids do just get out of bed, brush their teeth, and go.

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 10:41am

It's not that DD couldn't do her hair, I just did it.

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 10:42am

~~My kids get up very early, so they have some *wake up time* beofre moving into their morning routine, and also some *playtime* once everything is done, before we have to go out the door.~~~