Gifting Etiquette?

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Gifting Etiquette?
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Tue, 11-29-2011 - 3:19pm

I was talking to a friend yesterday and she was a bit taken aback about a conversation with her MIL.

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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 11:25am
Lol, and that's a great way to exchange ideas too! my husband and i don't really shop for eachother but he does replenish my perfume every christmas. and i know he can always use basic stuff like hanes undershirts, socks. he's getting a pair of these nice casual shoes he's been hinting at wanting for a while, too.

 

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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 11:31am
i used to feel this way too, but honestly and over the last couple years, we've either gotten our inlaws a g/c to their grocery store or a gift basket with fruits, nuts, candies, and i don't know which is more impersonal! they are difficult people to shop for and they don't need anything.

 

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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 11:40am
My mom is easy to shop for, but my in-laws are like that too. Last year, I tried asking mil to go to a show with the girls and me, but I could tell she didn't really like the idea. DH bought his dad a laptop, so now I really feel like we have to come up with something good for mil, but I have no ideas whatsoever.
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 11:45am
LOL about the "getting awfully late" comment b/c my mother has been saying the same thing! She told me before Thanksgiving that she already has my sister's family done, but that's mainly because all they want are gift cards. My brother's kids are older (early 20s) so she takes them shopping and spends the whole day with them. She does wrap their gifts though even though they already know what she is giving them. My parents are really hard to buy for b/c they don't need or want anything (take that back, my dad actually makes a wish list every year - usually some obscure book or music). I usually get my mom a pedicure b/c she would never, ever spend her money on something "so indulgent" but she loves having it done. She was actually disappointed one year when I got her something different! MIL is probably the hardest to buy for - like I said, she's a compulsive shopper, seriously,. for a while there, I thought dh's siblings were going to need to intervene. It was her therapy after FIL died. She has stacks of gift cards from her teaching days and never uses them. This year, dh and his siblings are all chipping in and getting her an iPad. She has never used a computer (they tried to teach her years ago but it was too complicated for her) so this will be perfect. My own mom, also never used a computer, got one in the spring and LOVES it (despite me telling her for years that she would love the internet, it only took her 20 years to get online!). Hopefully MIL will enjoy that.
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 12:11pm
I think the MIL and SIL were very rude. It is never appropriate to ask someone to give you a specific gift.

I hate it when people ask me what I want, because I prefer to be surprised. For people who really want a list (a-hem , DH), I keep an ongoing Amazon.com list and fill it with tons of stuff. If someone wants to get something from there, there are enough items that I still feel a little bit surprised. If not, that's great too! My mom always picks out really nice things for me that I didn't know I wanted. I sometimes send something more specific to DH, but I always let him know that if he has another good idea for something off the list to go for it. I really like surprises.
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 12:12pm
I should have read your post before posting. I agree completely.
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 12:23pm
I don't give them very often, except occasionally restaurant gift cards to couples. I kind of feel like I'm giving them a nice dinner out together. I also sometimes give gift certificates to a local bookstore to DH's aunt, uncle, and cousin, because they all love to read. I'd buy books for them, but it's so hard to pick something that they don't already have. My mom gave me iTunes gift cards last year (among other things), which I though was really sweet, because I had just gotten my iPhone. Also, this year, my sister and I are giving my parents a streaming video player and Netflix gift certificate.

I guess the point of my rambling is that I think gift cards can be thoughtful gifts in some cases, but I think that some people give them more randomly. That seems to kind of defeat the purpose of giving a gift in the first place. I wouldn't mind some gift cards to IKEA or Lowe's this Christmas though.
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 12:24pm

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LOL, my DH doesn't get hints and he knows it, so he asks for a list, too.





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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 12:59pm

Yes can't you get the hint that you should have pierced ears?

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 1:06pm
egd3blessed wrote:
Lol, and that's a great way to exchange ideas too! my husband and i don't really shop for eachother but he does replenish my perfume every christmas. and i know he can always use basic stuff like hanes undershirts, socks. he's getting a pair of these nice casual shoes he's been hinting at wanting for a while, too.

Aren't you shopping for eachother if he gets you perfume and you get him shoes?

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief