Girl Friends

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Girl Friends
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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 6:41pm

How many of you have girl friends that you see on a regular basis, do things with or talk to often?

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Avatar for rollmops2009
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Registered: 02-24-2009
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 3:28am

Most of our socializing is somehow work related. We have a few good friends, whom we see fairly often, but even with good friends there is often a work angle. I was never really the girlfriend type though. Usually I prefer male company, and I detest the dinners where the men discuss matters of state and I am stuck entertaining the wives.

I was in a book club for a while, but that was almost more difficult than a work dinner. We live in a small place, and everyone knows everyone else. Because of Dh's work, I have to be really careful what I say, so socializing can get to be more like an obstacle course than relaxation.

I do have a close friend in Copenhagen and try to see her whenever I am there (which is fairly often these past few years). We have been friends since we were 12. I am also close with my brother and a couple of cousins up there, and since they are far removed from my daily life I can talk about whatever I want with them.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 7:16am

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 7:26am

thanks to alot of moves, i've made friends pretty easily, through church, school, the Y, neighbors, mutual friends and wives at DH work.

 

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Registered: 12-01-2009
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 8:59am

I have to say we have a really really active social life -- both in terms of giving and getting invites- but we make that a priority and make it happen.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 10:07am

I have many gf's and have re-acquainted with many high school friends in the last 2 years. With the invention of facebook we are able to keep in touch almost everyday and plan monthly happy hours. A bunch of us try to get together once a month or every other month. Last night we did happy hour, in 2 weeks one gf will be doing a passion party and NYE. We then try and do dinner parties every few months.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 10:33am

i have a friend back home, she and i have been friends for 20+ years, before husbands, before kids.

 

Avatar for savcal2011
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Registered: 10-06-2010
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 10:41am
I have to disagree. I don't think the problem here is that yoiu talk about everything with her ... it sounds as if you've possibly picked the wrong person to talk about everything with. I can't imagine being that close and confidential with someone that makes me angry or short.

My BFF and I *can* talk about everything. We talk finances, work problems, kid problems, kid joys, sex; we can be petty and judgmental about others or situations when we need to vent; we can admit our own faults and look for advice; we tell each other the hard truth, not just what we think the other wants to hear.

there are many things I can't talk to dh about. Not because there's anything wrong with our relationship, but because he just wouldn't understand, wouldn't have the same perspective, or hasn't been through something similar himself.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 11:00am

yes, thanks to social networking sites like FB, i've re-connected with HS friends and such.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 11:08am

you're right, we do share the wrong things together.

 

Avatar for savcal2011
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Registered: 10-06-2010
In reply to: mappers
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 11:23am
But don't you think a person who is judgmental, opinionated and confrontational with their close friends would be judgmental, opinionated and confrontational even if you didn't tell them much? Those three qualities are personality traits .. not traits that only appear if one confides too much.

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then why don't you share those confidentialities with those friends, instead of the one that causes so much tension?


I think that if I confided things in a friend, who then made me angry and created tension, that I'd quit telling that friend things. In fact, I might decide that person isn't really much of a friend.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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