Had to share this (kindness of strangers

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Had to share this (kindness of strangers
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:17pm

I reversed into a car parked on our street Friday. We have a funeral home on the corner of our street and they had a huge funeral Friday and all sorts of cars were parked on our street. Anyway, I left a note with my name and phone number. It did not dent the car but scratched the paint. I got back from running errands and the girl was getting in her car. I apologized again and her mother said I needed to call for a police report. She was very dour and unfriendly. I did so and we got it all squared away. I explained that things were kind of crazy around my house and blurted out my situation with Devin. She left and I thought she probably thinks I am insane.

Tonight, I get a knock at the door and it was the girl's mother. She brought a prayer cloth for us. Isn't that the sweetest thing? I don't really believe prayer cloths heal but to take time to do that with a complete stranger is just wonderful. It just helps confirm my believe in the innate human goodness that resides in people.

I am going through this hell during the holiday season wondering the meaning and the reason for Devin's painful, long death. Everywhere I turn, I have gotten kindness and love and support. I may never know the true reason but I know caring and love which is more than some people ever know. I feel very blessed.

Thank you board for all your support. I get weepy thinking about it. Faceless people-SavCal, PJ, Virgo, DJ, OK and all the others on this board have helped me so much. It really gives me hope when I feel so hopeless.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 10:25pm
I won't tell you not to feel hopeless, because I'm not walking in your shoes.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 10:52pm
The way that you share your story with us is such a gift. You may think what is going on is that you are getting all this wonderful support here of women who want so badly to help you with your burden if only they could but actually what is really happening is that you are showing us how to live.

When I think of all the trivial little disappointments of my day, how I could barely get through the morning without yelling at a small child who refused to put on his boots or how mad I am that I lost the dog's invisible fence collar (which costs $285 to replace), it all just fades away when I consider what you are going through.

I remember when I was going through a miscarriage, walking around in a distraught and lost sort of way for the few days it was happening to me. Every once in a while I would tell a stranger why I was such a mess and they all showed such compassion, it floored me. It made me think that if we all just shared some of our vulnerabilities, we'd have a little more harmony in the world.

May you receive all the kindness and love and support you need.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 2:38pm
How very heartwarming to know you are receiving such loving "vibes" in this time of need and sadness. I truly believe in "paying it forward", and am sure you will have your chance to pay someone with kindness when they are in need of say a hug, or a warm meal. This is the essence of humanity.

still thinking of you and praying for peace in your lives.

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Registered: 10-11-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:26pm
{{Everywhere I turn, I have gotten kindness and love and support.}} Maybe this is the reason, or one of the smaller ones. In a world of suspicion, and where it is easier to believe the bad in people not the good, maybe your experience and you sharing your experience with us reminds us that regardless of what the 6 o'clock news would have you think there is still A LOT of good in people.