Has anyone's dh had a vasectomy?

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Has anyone's dh had a vasectomy?
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 1:09pm
I have been trying to convince dh to have one and he just won't do it. Anytime I bring it up he doesn't want to talk about it. Well, today is the last straw. I went to the gyn for my annual check up and she said my left ovary is twice the size it should be. She we wants a pelvic ultrasound. Now I am 3 days late on my period and she said I should take a pregnancy test because if I were pregnant it could cause my ovary to be enlarged. Anyway, I left there and proceeded to go pick up a test while thinking what will I do if I am pregnant. We are happy with two children and that is all we can afford (at least the lifestyle we want for them). Anyway, to make a long story short, I am not pregnant- THANK GOD! Although, now I have to worry about why my ovary is large. My mother had ovarian cancer at the age of 42. I am 35 and a tad scared. Dh is out of town and I have the ultrasound Friday. I don't think I am going to mention it when I talk to him as there is no reason to ruin is week with his dad and our ds.

Anyway, what experience did your dh's have with a vasectomy? It really isn't that bad at all from what I have read. To top it off, it only cost $20 (co-pay).

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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 1:59pm

Stbxh had one. So I'm relieved he can't get HWB pg.


Seriously though .. it might be more than $20. There is anesthesia, and sometimes blood tests, and semen checks and other things that aren't covered under an office visit copay. It is often considered outpatient surgery and, although done in an office, is a procedure and not an exam. Check with your ins company to make sure of the costs. Stbxh's would have been $250 (deductible) except we'd already met the family deductible.

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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 2:05pm
My DH is 100% Italian.

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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 2:12pm
My husband and I have talked about it and he is actually all for it. We agreed that if by the time my daughter turns 4 and we don't want anymore children, then he's all for it. This way, I don't have to take BC the rest of my ovulating life.

He understands that there are less complications, less side effects and a very minute scarring on his part if he has it done.

If I had it done, I could go through much more problems and have higher risks.

He does want to make sure though that it doesn't cause impotence. If the doctor cannot guarantee that, then we may have a problem with him accepting it.

Also, it is covered by my insurance as well. As long as it's done by an Emory provider, it will only cost $35-co-pay. We have an HMO with no deductible. But if you have a deductible, you may have to meet it forst before paying so little.


Edited 11/5/2003 2:28:38 PM ET by hallejahs_mom

Tonya
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 3:33pm
My DH did it without any hesitation. We both know we're happy with our 3 kids, I didn't want to mess around with hormones being added to my body chemestry, I knew I'd never actually use the diaphram, an IUD freaks me out, and condoms are just too uncertain. I would have had the tubal if he hadn't decided this was the way to go, but he absolutley did. I was with him for the whole proceedure holding his hand. I thought it was the least I could do! He was a pretty sore for a day and a little sore for about three days, but he said it really wasn't a big deal. He said he was sure it didn't compare to childbirth and I have to agree with him there!
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 3:35pm
Oh, impotency is not a problem! My DH is so much happier that he doesn't have to wear a condom and we're both more spontaneus now.
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 3:58pm
Beware! Perhaps Hoochie may come up pg! Here's what happened to my friend: She and DH agreed they'd only have one child. When their son was about 8, my friend comes up pg. Well, they're thrilled. She had a healthy boy, now 2 1/2 (and there's no doubt he's her husband's.) Her dh went back to the urologist after that little mishap and the dr. said no,no, can't be, your sperm count is zero, wife must have cheated. DH did nothing more about it, and at the end of September this year, my friend says "Hey guess what?"

Sure enough, she was pg with #3. Sadly, she lost it last week, but let this be a cautionary tale. Sometimes the knot comes out, or it grows back or whatever, so the guy has to get checked regularly. My DH is traumatized by a haircut, so there ain't no gettin' near his doo-dads with sharp objects.

 

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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 4:01pm
Sounds to me like that's the only way me and my husband would have another child. It would truly and honestly have to be a MISTAKE.
Tonya
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 4:08pm
My dh had one three years ago. He responded poorly to the surgery (swelled up like a baseball) and healed very slowly (took about a month to start looking normal. However, he is very glad he went through it all! I was a bitch on birth control, and condoms are just such a pain.
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 4:56pm
Okay can any of your dh's talk mine into having one?

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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 5:01pm
My DH before we got married told me that he never wanted a minivan and he would never have a vascetomy. I just laughed. He has been through far too much for me ever to suggest that he get one but I think it is funny that he was so worried about it before we got married.

We still don't have a minivan either.

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