Has anyone's dh had a vasectomy?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Has anyone's dh had a vasectomy?
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 1:09pm
I have been trying to convince dh to have one and he just won't do it. Anytime I bring it up he doesn't want to talk about it. Well, today is the last straw. I went to the gyn for my annual check up and she said my left ovary is twice the size it should be. She we wants a pelvic ultrasound. Now I am 3 days late on my period and she said I should take a pregnancy test because if I were pregnant it could cause my ovary to be enlarged. Anyway, I left there and proceeded to go pick up a test while thinking what will I do if I am pregnant. We are happy with two children and that is all we can afford (at least the lifestyle we want for them). Anyway, to make a long story short, I am not pregnant- THANK GOD! Although, now I have to worry about why my ovary is large. My mother had ovarian cancer at the age of 42. I am 35 and a tad scared. Dh is out of town and I have the ultrasound Friday. I don't think I am going to mention it when I talk to him as there is no reason to ruin is week with his dad and our ds.

Anyway, what experience did your dh's have with a vasectomy? It really isn't that bad at all from what I have read. To top it off, it only cost $20 (co-pay).

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 11-09-2003 - 7:19pm
My DH had a vasectomy in 1996. But he had had major abdominal surgery 3 mos. earlier and ended up with a colostomy. He was scheduled to have his colon reattached so I suggested he have a vasectomy at the same time since a urologist had to be present at his surgery. To make a long story short, the vasectomy practically went unnoticed. He was on pain killers for the reattachment so he barely noticed any other pain.

About two years ago I thought I was pregnant again (vasectomies are not 100% foolproof). Luckily, I wasn't. But it was pretty stressful when I thought I might be pregnant again at 43 (DH was 49 at the time). We did NOT want another child, especially at this point in our lives.

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Registered: 10-11-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 6:02pm
I think there is a bigger issue here. Your mom had ovarian cancer which from what I understand is the hardest to detect and because of this has one of the highest mortality rates. If you are not going to use them anymore, talk to your OBGYN about YOUR options. Maybe you need preventative surgery and have them removed.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 5:32pm
Um, don't count on it. Dh had a vasectomy when married to his ex. Reversals can work. I have two dd's to prove it.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 11:59am
It took me 6 surgeries to have 2 babies, so you can bet that when it came time for someone to go under the knife for birth control purposes, it was his turn ; ) However, my dh would not be the one for yours to talk to because he did have some complications. It seems there was a nerve left exposed, which apparently is a fairly rare occurrence, but dh was in quite a bit of pain for about 10 days. He said he would feel fine until he moved the wrong way, and then it felt like someone had given him a swift kick. Generally though, as I understand it, a vasectomy is a much more minor procedure than a tubal - local anesthetic, quicker recovery, etc.

Good luck! I hope everything turns out ok for you.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 4:41pm
I have found this thread quite interesting. I have 3 BILs who have had the procedure, as well as my dh and my brother. My dh honest to goodness had so little pain, he was back at work that same afternoon. He was just a little tender. One of my BILs was the same. When we first met with the urolgist and he told us there would be little to no pain, we mentioned some of our relatives who had swelling issues and needed a few days off work. The urologist said that a seasoned urologist will perform this procedure and leave the man *almost* painless. He said it is a procedure that requires lots of practise to perfect. Of course he was well practised and would say that, but I am thinking it is absolutely true. I'd advise the OPer to find a urologist who is older, but not so old his hands may be shaky LOL. I'd ask him how many vasectomys he has performed and how often. I'm betting it makes a huge difference!
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 4:20pm
True. I think they just got the urologist who was last in his class in med school, or he was absent on Vasectomy Day. They were discussing suing him.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 3:29pm
Dh had a vasectomy after the birth of our third (unplanned) child. It cost us very little. It was somewhat uncomfortable for about 24 hours. He had the procedure done on Friday and he went to work on Monday. Through the last month of my pregnancy the doctor thought that the baby was transverse and I would need a c-section. I was going to have a tubal at the same time. But the baby turned and I didn't need a c-section. So dh had a vasectomy. It's nice not having to worry about birth control.

Jenna

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 1:22pm
We are still having kids but we have already decided dh will get one when the time comes. His best friend just got one. I just flat out told him.. *I* did childbirth, *I* took b/c (pills and shots) all those years, now its YOUR turn to do something uncomfortable! LOL
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 9:35am
Well first of all, (((Hugs))) on your concern over the ovary. Hopefully it will not be a big deal at all and easily remedied.

Secondly, my dh refused a vasectomy for years..citing concerns over increased prostate cancer risk, blah, blah, blah. Several of my friend's husbands have had the procedure done and recovered quite easily...so it really bugged me; but since he was adamant I shrugged it off and went on the pill. Just recently I was diagnosed with very high blood pressure and had to go off the pill, and I told dh that under no circumstances was I having a tubal after four kids. To my surprise he readily agreed, but then pulled passive aggressive and said I'd better make the appointment because if left to him it would never get done <> lol. Whatever...at least he agreed. Maybe this health concern of yours will help force your dh's hand in making the decision.

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Thu, 11-06-2003 - 7:44am

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