Has anyone's dh had a vasectomy?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Has anyone's dh had a vasectomy?
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 1:09pm
I have been trying to convince dh to have one and he just won't do it. Anytime I bring it up he doesn't want to talk about it. Well, today is the last straw. I went to the gyn for my annual check up and she said my left ovary is twice the size it should be. She we wants a pelvic ultrasound. Now I am 3 days late on my period and she said I should take a pregnancy test because if I were pregnant it could cause my ovary to be enlarged. Anyway, I left there and proceeded to go pick up a test while thinking what will I do if I am pregnant. We are happy with two children and that is all we can afford (at least the lifestyle we want for them). Anyway, to make a long story short, I am not pregnant- THANK GOD! Although, now I have to worry about why my ovary is large. My mother had ovarian cancer at the age of 42. I am 35 and a tad scared. Dh is out of town and I have the ultrasound Friday. I don't think I am going to mention it when I talk to him as there is no reason to ruin is week with his dad and our ds.

Anyway, what experience did your dh's have with a vasectomy? It really isn't that bad at all from what I have read. To top it off, it only cost $20 (co-pay).

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 5:13pm
My dh had a vasectomy immediately following the birth of our youngest child. He took 2 hours off work to have it done. He was slightly tender at the incision site for a couple of days. He was surprised at how simple it was. Men, in general, have difficulty with knives being anywhere near their penis LOL, but if you can get him to LISTEN to how simple it is and how nice sex is when you have no worries about pregnancy etc, he might be more easily convinced. Given your health concerns, if I were you, I would insist that he go talk to his dr at a minimum - or of course there is another alternative - abstinence... most men would go talk to their doc I suspect.

Good luck with your tests. I understand your not wanting to ruin your dh's trip, but I hope you have someone else to talk to?

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 5:19pm
LOL that is hilarious - hoochie and doo-dads and all - you have a very colorful vocabulary LOL.

While it certainly HAS happened, I think it is extremely rare for a man's vasectomy to come *undone*. Typically, if he goes back to two sperm counts and they come up zero, he should feel pretty darned confident that his baby making days are over. Even reversals are difficult and rarely successful.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 6:47pm
My DH had one 13 years ago. It was very painful for a few days but did have a fairly quick recovery time.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 7:18pm
For $20???? my dh would be running over there. i kind of "made" my dh get one, but i have been cut four times, and have had really bad cramps since i was 13, so i didnt want to get my tube(yes, i lost one to an ovarian cyst 26 years ago)tied. i didnt think it was a good idea to stay on bc pills til menapause, so i pushed dh to do it. he didnt want to, but pretty much agreed with me, that i had been through enough. WELL!! he had it done, didnt listen to the doctor about resting the weekend, and well "things" were not pretty. i would highly recommend if your dh does it to try to get him to lay around for a couple of days. my dh thinks hes mr macho, and nothings gonna get him down!!! bwahahaha

NOT. anyhoo, after two years off the pill, i couldnt stand the cramps anymore and went back on the pill, so we're double dutied! LOL. the procedure is really no big deal for men, as i have talked to a few, and they all say the same thing. no big deal.

good luck with your issues. i know its very worrisome. good vibes coming your way!

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 8:37pm

Yup, but it took our "bonus baby" to convince him to do it. That, and I threatened to come after him with the toenail clippers if he didn't go.


It was no big deal. He walked out of the surgery, spent one day taking vicoden and holding frozen peas on his privates, and that was it. He said it's nothing he'd care to do twice, but it wasn't agonizing. I think he tries to play it up sometimes to get sympathy, but it never works, lol.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 10:26pm
LOL. I love how you just throw "HWB" out there. I guessed it (or at least I think I guessed it) right away.
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 10:34pm
No, but in about two years he will probably do it. We are going to wait just to make sure we really want to be done having biological children. There is no such thing as good birth control, is there?
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 12:21am
Huh! I havent checked into the copay thing! Perhaps I should. My dh is in *veddyyyy* reluctant agreement to having one. Of course, it cant be during any kind of training time (so that blocks out about 9 months out of the year) and he also keeps changing the subject whenever I bring it up. I keep insisting I want him to *take care of it* this year sometime. We've had a couple scares and MY health (as well as any potential infants) could be at a huge risk if I get pg again!! I'd get my tubes tied but that is MAJOR surgery. Its silly to even consider when he can go in and get the *no scalpel* version in a d@mn doctors office!

P.S. Hope all is well with your own dr visit. It might just be a fibroid tumor, so dont panic. Heck, I have several of them!

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Thu, 11-06-2003 - 7:44am

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 9:35am
Well first of all, (((Hugs))) on your concern over the ovary. Hopefully it will not be a big deal at all and easily remedied.

Secondly, my dh refused a vasectomy for years..citing concerns over increased prostate cancer risk, blah, blah, blah. Several of my friend's husbands have had the procedure done and recovered quite easily...so it really bugged me; but since he was adamant I shrugged it off and went on the pill. Just recently I was diagnosed with very high blood pressure and had to go off the pill, and I told dh that under no circumstances was I having a tubal after four kids. To my surprise he readily agreed, but then pulled passive aggressive and said I'd better make the appointment because if left to him it would never get done <> lol. Whatever...at least he agreed. Maybe this health concern of yours will help force your dh's hand in making the decision.