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Has this board changed your mind?
| Thu, 06-19-2003 - 9:42am |
Has anyone's comments, posts or discussions here actually changed your mind about whether you should WOHM or SAHM? Or which you will be when you have children?
I'm just curious if anyone has actually been swayed to "the dark side" (lol) depending on what that is for you (woh or sah) based on the discussions here.
Has your choice become stronger or shakier based on the discussions?
What purpose does this board serve for you?
Cindy
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I exercise more due to djknappsak's passionate views on an active lifestyle.
I've realized that I am a minority in so many ways - I don't plan to go in and out of the workforce, I don't have "flexible dreams," and I really do love my career! I've also realized that I'm much more security and ego motivated than many other people here. I take a very long term view of things which is also different from many mothers with small children.
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Personally, I dont think there is anything wrong with SAH when the children are little but feel it is not a good idea when the children are older. Others on this board have contended that it is important to have a SAHP during those teen years. During my teen years, my mom always knew what I was up to and kept close tabs on me even though she WOH. My parents also instilled values in me which kept me down the straight and narrow.
I also have learned alot-pacifier tricks, how to get my 6 year old to clean his room and how to get my husband to quit using my razor!
I really enjoy the board. I am addicted. It is a great outlet and it is thought provoking. It is sometimes maddening.
Kristi
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I SAH/WAH. I think my very first posts here could probably have been seen as rather *militant* :)
I like to read and post on this board because it helps for me to gain perspective. I really have never WOH... and I don't know at this point if I will? As my children get older and more independent (and I no longer have 20 diaper changes per day) I have to wonder what the other side is like. From the bubble of my life, pre-board, I knew the dc around here was low quality. I had no idea that my area is just not typical. I also had some pretty bad preconcieved notions about WOH due to the way my own mother handled WOH. I have since come to the conclusion that not every WOHM does as she did.
I only continue with the board to keep it fresh in my mind. As a SAHM, my hat is off to WOHMs. I think mostly what I gain from this board is trying to obtain more open-mindedness and understanding through other's POVs and experiences.
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Unfortunately, the debates take these negative, left turns. Sometimes I respond defensively and then get a sick feeling in my stomach because I honestly don't think WOH mom's are bad people and I know that how I can come across in a response isn't a true reflection of who I am or how I would respond to someone face to face. Sometimes people here throw out outrageous, unfounded statements presented as fact and the Hulk in me just kicks in, feeling I have to defend my choice, when really I don't. Do you ever feel that way?
Anyway, I love how you both expressed your respect for certain aspects of the lives others choose to live that are different than yours.
I'm not sure if I will continue posting at this board because it tends to make me feel worse than better (both to read the posts and the way I respond or want to respond even if I use self-control).
At least I know some here do come from a place of respect for the other side.
Cindy
My blog, Letters From Midlife
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You certainly dont have to justify yourself to anyone.
My blog, Letters From Midlife
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