Have you seen the commercial?.....

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Have you seen the commercial?.....
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 7:10pm
for the cruise line that accommodates kids too.. it says something like look what your kids can show their class when they get back from summer vacation! and it shows a kid at school in front of her class, sharing a home movie of herself on this ocean liner having a great time. I HATE these commercials. does this not lure parents to do *even more* for their kids? why is it important for a little kid to go on a cruise??? are they deprived if they dont? i just dont get it. when my kids were younger, i felt badly we couldnt take them to the islands, on a cruise, to europe, etc, and then one day i woke up and said, "wait, if they want to go, they will get an education, a great job and GO THEMSELVES!". is this a bad attitude on my part? i just hate these commercials that are so darned biased toward kids.

am i just not seeing what im supposed to??? are my children deprived??

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:08am
I saw the commercial and I didn't like it either. I didn't like the message of "bragging rights" and "make everyone else jealous". What kind of message is that? And it's aimed at the parents! And they will buy it!

The media-driven one-upmanship is getting out of control! I don't know if families really care or not....

Meldi

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 11:51am
I think that we are giving our kids too much too soon. I think it is good to make kids wait for certain things and not give them everything. I mean they have graduation ceramonies for Kindergarteners, have formal dances for eight graders, rent limos for proms, what's left for the wedding?

If you take your kid on a cruise when they are little, what will they do for their honeymoon, go to a state park? Part of the fun of "growing up" is being able to do things that grown ups do and save your own money for nice trips, etc.

I think we take the joy out of adulthood by trying to make creat too much "experience" in childhood.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:01pm
I haven't seen the commercial, but I definitely think that parents are being pressured by the media to do more and buy more for their kids.

Growing up, the vacations I have the fondest memories of are the camping trips to Mt. Rainier and to the Pacific Ocean. The "big" trips my parents splurged for (Hawaii, NYC) I didn't enjoy because I was too young.

One thing I've noticed in my area is kids driving really nice cars. When I turned 16, I didn't get my own car, I got to use our family's station wagon. I didn't get my "own" car until my parents gave me our used Volvo when I was a junior in college. I just don't understand giving a 16 year old a sassy little sports car or SUV right when they get their license.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:14pm
Lol, well I've been on a cruise and thought it was horribly boring, but otoh, I do see travel as an important part of my children's education. And because we do see it as important, we work it into our budget no matter what.

That said, I also dont think a child is going to be *deprived* if a parent isnt able to travel extensively with them. I realize other people dont see it as especially important, and I certainly dont think that their kids are somehow going to be *less* than mine in any way. Its just something dh and I feel is important for *our* kids.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:24pm

I am taking the kids on a cruise in January. We are going on a Disney cruise and it wasn't because of guilt or some dumb commericial. It was the promise to myself that I made when Devin was sick. I am really excited.


My sister and her family are going and my mother. My sister and I already have a bet on how soon it will take to fight and who will cry first. I give it two days and my mother will cry first.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:24pm
I don't agree. As you know, (quite well in fact - LOL!) DH and I are no spring chickens. WE want to go on a cruise before we get much older, so why not take the kids with us? It's something we've always wanted to do. As you know, we've been starting to travel more with the boys and we think that it's important to get around and experience different things. We're foregoing a bigger, nicer house in order to be able to do more travelling. I really don't see anything wrong with it.


Edited 5/4/2004 12:27 pm ET ET by laurenmom2boys
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:25pm
ITA.
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:46pm
Well, we took ds #1 on a cruise when he was 20 months old. Why? I was one of those mothers who felt guilty leaving him behind. And we had fun with him. Nowadays, we look at things differently. We want to take our kids all over the place for them to see the world, but we also want time to ourselves as a couple. And I don't know if children would appreciate Alaska, etc at this age. So we schedule family vacations, and we schedule couple vacations. It depends on how we think the kids would enjoy themselves, or make us NOT enjoy ourselves, lol. But I don't see anything wrong with taking a child on a cruise. Nor do I see anything wrong with your stance of not wanting to take your children. It's a family choice, plain and simple.
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:04pm
I haven't seen that one, but there is another one that really annoys me - also a commercial for a cruiseline:

Family (mom, dad, kid) going on a cruise vacation. The commercial shows that the cruise is a perfect choice for a family because mom can go to an aerobics class, dad can sleep in the sun, kid can hang out in the kids' program. Mom and dad can have a romantic dinner, kid can hnag out in the kids' program. Mom can have a massage, dad can sleep in the sun, kid can hang out in the kids' program. Only one frame in the commercial show the family TOGETHER.

Now, I understand that parents need time together without their children and that everyone needs time alone to decompress or whatever - BUT - this commercial basically showed a family on vacation not doing a darn thing together. What is the point of a family vacation if they don't spend time together?

When I was a kid, we went camping a lot. We didn't go on any cruises, to europe or anything like that because we didn't have the money - but we always had time together and that's what is important IMO. If parents have the money to take their kids on expensive vacations, then I think that's great - as long as they don't lose sight of the point of taking a family vacation.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:08pm
I did see the commercial and know what you mean about it, it raised an eyebrow for me too. Not so much from the "biased toward kids" perspective but from the "show-offy consumerism" perspective. (How's the kid giving the presentation after him supposed to feel about his camping trip?) DH and I have no interest whatsoever in being without DS for a week but enjoy cruising and might very well take DS on vacation along WITH Grandma and Grandpa so that we all get a little family time, a little private time. I would NOT expect DS to do a slide presentation to his class designed to boast about it.

No, your children are not deprived, but this commercial was designed precisely to make them feel like they are if they don't do something dramatic and expensive, which IMO is pretty sad.

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