Helicopter Parenting

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Helicopter Parenting
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:02pm

Yes hazeleyes, I doubt my kid's friends' mothers would agree sticking around is helicopter-ish, Lol.  I caught up with some of the kitchen chat when I picked him up from that party. 

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:03pm
Oh my....again, it is not about having an opportunity to have a social event but it is nice to see people that your children go to school with that you have things in common with. Again, IME it is all about the amount of time of the party and the location and the age of child. I am not speaking of older elementary school children or MS or HSers.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:05pm
Around here b'day parties are very much an elementary school thing, especially for boys. I know a few girls who have had them up until about 7th grade. I offered my son - the one who likes parties - a 16 yr old party, but he declined. Nowadays for my high school student, birthdays are usually a couple of friends getting together for a movie and pizza. My older one turns 21 this spring. I've lived in a college town too long not to be nervous about that one.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:06pm
Yes Chuckie Cheese, Laser Tag, Pet Store, Science, Amusement parks, etc. These last until at least the end of elementary school IME. I understand it is not the same everywhere.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:08pm
lol Jam. I understand things are different all over the place and that is why I said IME and explained why things are done the way they are. Never insisted they didn't work that way anyplace else. lol
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:09pm

Jump right in Thardy!:-)

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:10pm

It's an individual thing not regional thing. 

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:10pm
Yes Bord different parties. IME parties are at outside venues. I have been to parties at home but not as much as the ones outside. Last year our friends had a party for their child at home. Every parent was invited and they had a BBQ, games and crafts for the kids. If someone has a party at home, it is a lot like this in the elementary school years, IME.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:13pm
Jam-ugghh the dreaded Sweet 16 lol. I will not spend thousands of dollars for a party. My oldest bday is in the summer so not sure what we will do. I would love to just go on a nice vacation. Bringing a friend would be great too but we have another year for that and not going to worry about it now. lol
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 7:14pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
  Your kids parents or the kids friends parents?   But same for us, we just didn't attend the kids birthday parties because usally they were kids birthday parties and not adult/kid birthday parties.  I don't know if it's because we had other things at those ages (sports, church, school, community, etc) or what, but there hasn't been any connection between birthday parties and socializing with out kids friends parents.  It's pretty standard here for drop off birthday parties, it is not a reflection on the parent at all here.</p>

I've dropped off if no parents stay.  I stay (my oldest is in middle school) more often than not because home parties generally have an adult table and buffet.  A different menu/tables for the children's food.  I don't know if it's regional as I don't think I live near Hazeleyes.

Don't you think the more quality time you spend with the other kids' parents, the better friends you become?

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