Helicopter Parenting

Avatar for jamblessedthree
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Helicopter Parenting
520
Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 

 

Pages

Avatar for BeaArthurisMyReligion
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2013
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 9:36am

we're not seriously back at the "good parents stay at kid's birthday parties" are we?  My lord the more things change... the more .. yadda yadda.

FORTUNATELY  "by me" kids parties are not a big deal, I think the last one I threw for my own kid was the year she turned eight.. so nearly 6 years ago now.  And I"d rather stab myself in the head with a fork than stay at one...

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 8:17am
Around here it was (or used to be, I am five years past that mess) customary to go to the door with your child, greet the hosts and ask if they have rnough help, verify p/ u details, and then greet the birthday child. Then you go away. A few times I have joined another parent from the party at a local coffee shop or something while our children were at the party.
Avatar for jamblessedthree
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 8:02am

Then you don't know what other attendees at kids' parties do or look like if you're just dropping yours off. 

 

 

Avatar for jamblessedthree
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 7:53am

Nope hazeleyes, You're nolonger that social animal you pretend to be on Fb, So stop trying! (wink);-)

 

 

Avatar for jamblessedthree
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 7:44am

The # friends you have doesn't make you a social butterfly.   The ability to avail yourself to others and different social circles does..  And it's typically an observation (IME anyway,  Lol) people make about others not ones own self......  Strange.

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2011
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 6:58am

If I had to be friends with all of my kids' friends' parents, not only would there be enough time, but I'd also cut off a few relationships because I just don't like some of them. One of my daughter's friend's mothers talked at me for two hours when I met her, she wanted to fill me in on her medical history. I couldn't get a word in edgewise, and worse, when I managed to politely break free and return home, she called me within the hour to continue her monologuing. I guess she was in the market for a new BFF herself. The girls had a wonderful friendship for several years and still keep in touch, but if being that woman's friend was required... pffft.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 6:54am
Congratulations on the new family member, Puss!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:36am

Just yesterday morning I was thinking to myself that the thread had kind of settled into a pleasant and even slightly interesting thread.  I see it didn't take long before everyone not from an island off New York got 'splained how they do friendships (and everything else) wrong and how we should be more like those doing the schooling.

Makes me glad I spent yesterday lovin' on a brand new (TINY--4 lbs 1 oz) baby boy, instead of here :)  My grandson's aunt had her baby a month early last Tuesday, and since they were both doing well, the baby was stable and grandson's aunt's blood pressure was finally responding to meds, they were released on Friday.

Oh my goodness, he's just the sweetest, tiniest little baby EV. ER!!! And he made a couple little faces that reminded me so much of my grandson as an infant. 

I've REALLY got to get on the ball and get that boy's quilt finished :)

************

Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

Avatar for rollmops2009
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:29am

What Hazel describes doing with school acquaintances, we have to do for business. We both find it quite tiring at times, even if it is also often interesting. We do not have the energy to do it for busines and then on top of work having to sit around making polite chit-chat for hours and go to boring social events with the parents from school for no particular good reason. 

Avatar for rollmops2009
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:10am

"I think some people are calling people "friends" that I would call acquaintances or just "people I am friendly with." Friends are people I know, trust, and could call at 3 am if I need to. Not just folks whose kids have the same teacher as my kid does."

Yep! I knew many of the parents from dd's school. Here too, like in Hazel's hood, parents are expected to participate in bday parties, for example, and the school also had a fair number of social events. But they did not become "friends." Most of us did not have much in common, except the kids and the school. Once the kids moved on, so did the parents. I am still friends with a couple, but we were friends anyway, before our kids went to school together.

Pages