Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 

 

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 11:42am

If any of my kids require parental intervention to get through a college class, I'll consider my husband and I failures as parents.

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 11:52am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. </p>

I see it in sports, generally with some dads, more often with moms.  Not so much in schools.  Helicoptering parenting is an effort to avoid your child getting hurt, whatever his/her age. 

Birthday parties ~ I would stay until the age of the child when I noticed all the other parents left. 

I'd imagine a lot of helicopter parenting is behind the scenes ~ parents doing kids' homework, making their beds, cleaning bedrooms beyond an appropriate age.

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 11:57am

My dad was a math teacher but I still suffer at it, He's offered his help even to me some three semesters ago when I needed it.  DD1 gets her smarts from him, Lol. 

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 12:04pm

Thardy, You were missed....  But welcome back! 

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 12:43pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>My dad was a math teacher but I still suffer at it, He's offered his help even to me some three semesters ago when I needed it.  DD1 gets her smarts from him, Lol. </p>

Enjoy it while it lasts!  And thanks for the welcome.  Did you get my pm?

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 12:55pm
Thardy :)
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 1:21pm
Jam-my dh is more of a social butterfly but after so many years of schools, you become friends with many of the parents or at least know them well enough to talk to them. I think it is good to know the parents of your children's friends even starting in elementary school. Again, this might be a regional thing just dropping off your child but I have seen parents who do that (far and few between) and they are usually the parents who are not very social and you barely see them at school functions either.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 1:25pm
Regina-some of the shows are just ridiculous, I know. I get sucked into some of the reality shows but not most of them. ESPN is on a lot at my house and some football games are not on the regular channels so that is one reason I "need" cable lol. I enjoy the food channel and other channels that I would not get with basic cable.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 1:27pm
Jam-I get the kids be kids thing but kids will never learn how to be neat and clean unless they are taught while they are young.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 2:54pm

There's absolutely nothing wrong with asking your parents for help with academics. There is something totally wrong when a parent has to intervene and ask about the syllabus and grades.

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