Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 

 

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 3:56pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
  Well that's interesting as haz claimed that she didn't know what region you are in but you know hers and you know jams and mine as well?  How so?  Further since you claim to not be in my region, how can you disagree with is common (or not) with kids birthday parties in my area?  I find it curious that not only do you claim to not live in my region, you ignore the posters in my region experiences to draw a conclusion that is not logical.

That's interesting?  Well, okay. Surprised

Haz may not know my region but accepts that I clarify I am not from her region.  stickwithme.....

And 2.) ;) I fully take your word for it that dump-and-run (look, I made a new word) is common in your area because you've said it's so.  And are even proud of it.  So, I'm on your side.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:02pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
  Haz actully (sic) currently agrees with the adults don't attend kids parties much past early elementary school at the moment, which of course contradicts early posts.  So yes, while we disagreed in the beginning of this thread, a contradiction was made and now we agree.   Got it?

No, I don't get it.  Hazeleyes has been consistent that many, many E.S. age bd parties involve parents staying.  Not all.  I've read all of your posts.  And all of Hazeleyes' posts.  Can you quote and give the page # where Hazeleyes says what you say.  All I've seen is Hazeleyes trying with great success to clarify any adamant untruths about not staying at any E.S. bd parties.

Thanks in advance.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:03pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;thardy2001&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;So Pumpkinangel, including me, that's 3 who disagree with you that it's a regional thing.  My experience has been the same as Hazeleyes and Jam.   3 from different regions, same experience.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Oh no!  PumpkinAngel disagreed with the Triummulierate!  That doesn't make her wrong.  We just do things differently here in the crazy midwest.  But not as a region.  As individuals.  Over and over and over and over.  Clearly we're doing it wrong.  Watch us care.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Hi Bord.  Hate to correct the great educators of the world, but it's triumverate.  And it's Oh, no, the entire board against Hazeleyes and Jam! <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-surprised.gif" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" border="0" /></p><p>{{yawn}}</p>

No, it's NOT "triumvErate."  No clue what that would be.  A triummulierate is a coalition of three women.  And unless you're a man, the term fits just fine.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:03pm

Regina, some white zins are not half bad actually. It takes a bit of searching, but they exist.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:21pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>  Rarely ever see the children...interesting.  So how is it that one is spending quality time with the kids and adults ? </blockquote></p><p>The parent who dumps and runs.</p>

I wouldn't be so harsh on yourself and the block parties.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:24pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Welcoming in parents of children/sticking around at parties is NOT a regional thing, And FWIW I was born and raised in the midwest. </p>

So your parents to every single birthday party with you and all of your siblings, all through school?  

Yea, it's a regional thing or at least now it's a regional thing or it's a helicopter parenting thing, pick one, lol.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:24pm

I do not understand why Thardy and Friends are having such a hissy fit over the fact that we do birthday parties a little differently than they do.  It's hardly worth thinking about, really.  Our kids seem perfectly happy with the home party, no parents; they seem perfectly happy with their set-up.  So what exactly is the problem?

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:25pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;I keep a box of franzia white zin in my fridge, It's a great wine...  I've never heard of a wine bucket before either, Lol. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>We'll have to agree to disagree. White zin, imo, is never a great wine.  Boxed or not.  </p>

I'm with you, way too sweet and not sweet in a good way. 

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:26pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p>I really love how you all completely dismiss what you've been told by ppl who live in the same region whose experiences mirror one another. But since you brought it up, I don't recall any parents sticking around at my bday parties when I was kid, either. So this whole drop off thing must not be a new phenomenon since it was happening in the 70s and 80s. And I was born and raised 10 minutes from where I live now. </p>

I was born and rasied about 20 minutes from where I live now and same thing, no parents for every child at birthday parties.  The host parents were there but otherwise, kids were either dropped off or we walked over. 

This sounds like a very good example of helicopter parenting...

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 4:28pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Can you call bar friends at 3 am?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Curious.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Perhas it's a mom thing or getting old thing (or combination) but I don't consider bar friends an appropriate circle of friends anymore, JMO! &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Again, what are *bar friends*?</p>

I keep thinking of "NORM!" from Cheers.  I'm not sure what "bar friends" are but then again I'm also not sure about block parties where the kids go one way and the adults to the "kegs and wine buckets".  

PumpkinAngel

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