Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 


 


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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 3:20pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;hazeleyes2013&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;I agree with what you said about work friendships.  Do you believe the same about friends at a bar, even parents of your kids' friends?  Can you call bar friends at 3 am?</p><p>Curious.</p>

Do I belive what about friends at a bar? What are "bar friends"?   

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 3:17pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p>I'd go as far to include SavCal in our "region" and certainly she isn't w/in 90 miles of us.</p><p>But clearly OUR experiences are exceptional PKA.</p>

Clearly.  It is quite amusing for posters who claim to be outside the region working so hard to contradict the experiences of those posted within the region.  

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 3:15pm

<<Right.  Jam and Hazel are not from your region, nor are they from each other's regions.  stickwithme...Nor am I from their region.  So that's 3.  It can get confusing, all of that icky, difficult (I guess?) math and all.  But not contradictory.>>

OH I see your confused about what is contradictory, let me break it down for you.  It's the regions that are a contradiction it is the comments about going to all elementary school birthday parties, into teenage years and then being around to supervise high school parties for drinking to now claiming that one doesn't go to many elementary school parties let alone high school parties.

But I'm glad you figured out the region thing, you weren't sure if you were in the same region earlier and Haz didn't know so I'm glad you guys are now on the same page there.  However, none of you are in my region so you can't accurately disupte the three posters from this region who claim that it's regional.  Now of course it may be an individual think in your necks of the woods...but here, it's regional.  So glad we cleared that up!



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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 3:09pm

I'd go as far to include SavCal in our "region" and certainly she isn't w/in 90 miles of us.

But clearly OUR experiences are exceptional PKA.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 3:08pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>  (Quoting hazeleyes2013:  I've dropped off if no parents stay. I stay (my oldest is in middle school) more often than not because home parties generally have an adult table and buffet. A different menu/tables for the children's food. I don't know if it's regional as I don't think I live near Hazeleyes. This is from Thardy.</blockquote></p><p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>  Yes I know, I read her comments and <span style="font-family:arial black,avant garde">she states that she doesn't know if it's regional or not because she says that she doesn't know the region that you are in...so then how can you use her comments to support your individual theory if you don't know what regions she is in either?</span>   All the while not agreeing with me (and others from my region) who say it's regional?  Hmm. </blockquote></p><p>Ew, Pumpkinangel.  That's an untruth.  I've been consistent that I am not from Hazeleyes part of the world.</p><p>Hazeleyes, isn't it Easter soon?  Lent now?  ;) </p><p>I forgot to add her Hmm. </p>

Actually you clearly state that "I don't think I live near Hazeleyes", that you for that quote, saves me from going to find it, which clearly supports what I said...you don't know for sure and neither does Hazel. 

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 3:03pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>  Then why on earth are you using her comments as a point of reference if you don't even know what region she is in?  FYI, I wasn't asking you to post her region, just if you even knew it to use her as a point of reference for your region point.  LoL.</blockquote></p><p>Because I previously said it.  You went back to page 3 to quote Hazeleyes and thus are quite familiar with this entire discussion.</p><p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">hazeleyes2013</em> wrote:</div>  Once I though about it and heard other places do the same thing (you can check other people's posts here, <span style="font-family:arial black,avant garde">I think Tardy said the same thing</span>), I started believing it is not a regional thing but an individual thing.</blockquote></p>

Yes, I know you said that you believe it's an individual thing not a regional thing but without knowing your region, that isn't much of a point and haz nor I know your region.  There is not a point of reference for region.  And your opinion...isn't supported well.

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:58pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>Another contradiction to previous posts.</blockquote></p><p>Hazeleyes has not been contradictory.  Disagreement doesn't equate to being contradictory.</p>

Haz actully currently agrees with the adults don't attend kids parties much past early elementary school at the moment, which of course contradicts early posts.  So yes, while we disagreed in the beginning of this thread, a contradiction was made and now we agree.   Got it?

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:57pm
Around here, we sort of consider large chunks of the country like the "southwest" or the "Pacific Northwest" or "the Northeast" to be "regions." But perhaps that's regional.
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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:55pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;hazeleyes2013&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;Once I though about it and heard other places do the same thing (you can check other people's posts here, I think Tardy said the same thing), I started believing it is not a regional thing but an individual thing.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;What region is Tardy in?   Yes, I can check other peoples posts and those I know in my region are saying the same thing that I am saying thus it = regional.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I explain (later?) here that I live in neither Hazeleye nor Jam's regions.  I also don't live in your region.</p>

Well that's interesting as haz claimed that she didn't know what region you are in but you know hers and you know jams and mine as well?  How so?  Further since you claim to not be in my region, how can you disagree with is common (or not) with kids birthday parties in my area?  I find it curious that not only do you claim to not live in my region, you ignore the posters in my region experiences to draw a conclusion that is not logical. 

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:52pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;  It's an individual thing not regional thing.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;  I disagree, clearly things are done differently in different regions of the country.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;So Pumpkinangel, including me, that's 3 who disagree with you that it's a regional thing.  My experience has been the same as Hazeleyes and Jam.   3 from different regions, same experience.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Well no, that isn't accurate as I believe that Hazel and Jam are in the same region and there are three from my region who agree with me that it's a regional thing.  I don't know what region of the country you are in but I know that neither Jam or Haz are in my region...  Further, Haz is now claiming that she doesn't attend parties much in elementary school and not at all in high school unless there are special circumstances so she has flip flopped to what we have been saying all along....parents only attend in very early elementary school.</p><p>No worries though, I can't keep up with the contradictions either!</p>

Right.  Jam and Hazel are not from your region, nor are they from each other's regions.  stickwithme...Nor am I from their region.  So that's 3.  It can get confusing, all of that icky, difficult (I guess?) math and all.  But not contradictory.

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