Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 


 


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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:37pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
Do you see each other at places other than these birthday parties? ---many over the years, yes and still to this day Like once or twice a year? -----some once or twice a year (but speak to them on a regular basis) and some much often than that.

Daily, if they're in the bar?  Is this a trick question, Hazel? Smile

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:35pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
I hadn't realized that you were an expert on kids parties through out the country, lol.  You do realize that you have contradicted yourself numerous times, right?

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
  Yes different things are done in the country but I think kids parties are pretty much the same and just an individual thing as I have said before I know some parents that left their kids from early ages too.

Pumpkinangel where you're misunderstanding things is in the definitions of individual and regional.  Just because one thing doesn't happen in your region doesn't make it universal. 

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:21pm

Greeneyes, I am not picky. Some box-wines are perfectly fine. But I would not call box-wine "classy." Then again, "classy" is  a word I typically only use ironically.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:02pm
I don't even want to know what a wine bucket is...a wine box is hard enough to wrap my brain around. ;)

Shaking my head at the things grown women get their panties in a wad about.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:45pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p>Yup. Nothing says class like getting wasted in front of your kids...</p>

Yes, but maybe "classy" means that you just get tipsy, not wasted. Still trying to fit beer kegs and wine "buckets" in the category of "classy." Paul Fussell is probably giggling in hell.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:37pm

Yup. Nothing says class like getting wasted in front of your kids...

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:31pm

Well, according to a post further up, it is "classy" to sidle up to a beer keg or "wine bucket." So maybe it is also desirable to have your kids do these classy things or something. This is reminding me of the anthropolgy field trip aspect of this board.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:30pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;hazeleyes2013&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;Said what? There is zero context to know what you are asking, there is a little green quote button on the right hand side, it is a very nice button. -----where I said I attend the parties of my high schooler.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this thread or the thread about underage drinking?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Here in this thread, I have already provided it for you once but here it is yet again.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Quote:  &lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;It depends on the location of the party and many times the relationship to the parents. The youngest child mostly though more than the teenager unless it is a different circumstance.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;So since you are "now" claiming that you don't attend hs parties, how are you going to prevent underage drinking at these events?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>If one isn't there closely supervising, how does one prevent beer pong?</p>

I'm not quite sure, I think that would be a question for Haz and she has the concerns over friends playing beer pong with underage kids and lack of supervision at high school parties, but doesn't attend high school parties.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:29pm

Greeneyes2013 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;  It's an individual thing not regional thing.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;  I disagree, clearly things are done differently in different regions of the country.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;So Pumpkinangel, including me, that's 3 who disagree with you that it's a regional thing.  My experience has been the same as Hazeleyes and Jam.   3 from different regions, same experience.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>The cool thing about America - well, Earth, since there are other countries represented here - is that there's more than just one region. I'm sure things are done in certain parts of my state that aren't done in my area, but are also done in yours. It doesn't make you any more right than anyone else. The nitpicking over one tiny phrase can drive a person nuts. (not directing that to you, Thardy)</p>

Really, I don't think it's a big deal....attend kids parties or don't, I just don't at this point and haven't since early elementary school.  Haz suggested that these parties were good for parental bonding, that isn't an issue for me but if I was looking for parental bonding at birthday parties it would be difficult because well....there aren't any parents at the parties as many of us have explained multiple times now.  Jam for some reason, seems to think that she knows that there are really parents there, perhaps they are sneaking back to the party after drop off....I guess that would be possible although I can't see the reason for stealth birthday party attending by parents, but clearly I am not as well versed in the whole adults attending birthday parties as Jam, Haz and Tardy.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:23pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">hazeleyes2013</em> wrote:</div>Said what? There is zero context to know what you are asking, there is a little green quote button on the right hand side, it is a very nice button. -----where I said I attend the parties of my high schooler.</blockquote></p><p>In this thread or the thread about underage drinking?</p><p>Here in this thread, I have already provided it for you once but here it is yet again.</p><p>Quote:  <span style="font-size:13px">It depends on the location of the party and many times the relationship to the parents. The youngest child mostly though more than the teenager unless it is a different circumstance.</span></p><p>So since you are "now" claiming that you don't attend hs parties, how are you going to prevent underage drinking at these events?</p>

If one isn't there closely supervising, how does one prevent beer pong?

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