Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 


 


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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:55pm

Talking about thank you notes. I just received one from the family of one of the three wakes I went to last
week :(

Another place where you say your thank you's but always receive a thank you.

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:49pm
I would say that an ipod touch, laptop, ipad, computer is a want and extra luxury. Cellphone is for emergencies (foremost). In elementary school my kids either have or do go to after-care or on the bus. No need to call us for anything as if they need something, they can use the school phones. In middle school they walk to school and to me the cellphone is for emergency calls and then is is useful when they do things with their friends, go on field trips, etc. In high school it is used for everything as while they take a bus to and from school there are many times they need to be picked for one thing or another. More going out with friends, dropping off, picking up, etc.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:45pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
I don't think there is anything wrong with cellphones for kids but IME there is no reason for my elementary school child to have one. They either get dropped off at school or take the bus. They are there all day unless we get called for sickness. Then they go either to after-care, after school activity or on the bus home.

For that matter--what is the reason for kids to have iPod touches, or iPads or Kindles/Nooks, laptops, etc? DS got a laptop for his bday a few years back. He needed it for school. The reason he got an iPod? He wanted it. It isn't a need, anymore than I "need" an unlimited data plan for my phone. It is a want. 

Having said that, with middle school comes a bit more autonomy and freedhom than in elementary school. Does he "need" a cell phone in a few months? No. And he certainly doesn't need the iPhone he'll likely get. But it is a convenience we'll indulge because we can. 

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:34pm
I don't think there is anything wrong with cellphones for kids but IME there is no reason for my elementary school child to have one. They either get dropped off at school or take the bus. They are there all day unless we get called for sickness. Then they go either to after-care, after school activity or on the bus home.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:26pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;Ha, Does your DS text?  I don't think my 10 YO knows how yet but he has started asking when he's allowed his own phone, My old fashioned self would put it off indefinately if I could but I've used m/s as that time for his sisters and that's when he'll be allowed one too.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>He uses the text feature on his iPod. He doesn't have a phone yet, he'll get one over the summer before middle school. But he's been texting and Facetiming since he got the iPod. It is a great way for him to stay in touch w/his cousins who live 7 hours away. I'm not a technophobe. I don't think keeping electronics out of my kids' hands is doing them any favors in a society increasingly dependent on developing technology.</p>

Mine both received cell phones before middle school as well, which for them was between 6th and 7th grade. We also have ipods/touch (rarely used anymore), laptops, a few kindles and an ipad.  I think it's a good thing to not forbid kids from using electronics or look at them as if they are horrible devices....but use them in moderation, they are good for a lot of things.  They aren't going to go away anytime soon and just like I taught my children years ago to start caring for themselves so I wouldn't be a helicopter parent, I'm teaching them to use these devices as well.  So fast forward in a few years and there will be a thread on this and I will chuckle over the irony again!

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:23pm

chestnuthooligan wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;Anyone else the irony between the last thread and over supervising at parties (underage drinking) and now not following a child closely?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Apparently between that thread and this thread one poster aged eight years from Hazeleyes 2005 to 2013. With age comes wisdom?</p>

I guess but I do admit I'm chuckling a bit over this thread...

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:16pm

bordwithyou wrote:
And yet it's considered irresponsible to allow high school kids to br the next room at a graduation party without an adult monitoring then every minute. Strange.

I guess you see the irony as well, lol.  The majority of the time, I don't attend parties with my high school kids, either one of them unless I am specifically asked to chaperone.  To me attending all parties with a high schooler to monitor every minute as a poster suggested in a previous thread would be helicopter parenting.

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 2:26pm
Regina...same here. No need to have a phone before middle school.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 2:21pm

chestnuthooligan wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;Anyone else the irony between the last thread and over supervising at parties (underage drinking) and now not following a child closely?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Apparently between that thread and this thread one poster aged eight years from Hazeleyes 2005 to 2013. With age comes wisdom?</p>

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 2:09pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>SAH is a wonderful dynamic for some families and I can see where it would be hard to let go esp with older ones. </p>
Why is this solely a SAHM thing? WOH isn't a wonderful dynamic for some families? What about WAH? What about about SAHD? Do they have issues letting go too or is this just SAHMs?
jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>SAH is a wonderful dynamic for some families and I can see where it would be hard to let go esp with older ones. </p>

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