Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 

 

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 2:09pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>SAH is a wonderful dynamic for some families and I can see where it would be hard to let go esp with older ones. </p>
Why is this solely a SAHM thing? WOH isn't a wonderful dynamic for some families? What about WAH? What about about SAHD? Do they have issues letting go too or is this just SAHMs?
jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>SAH is a wonderful dynamic for some families and I can see where it would be hard to let go esp with older ones. </p>

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 2:04pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Ha, Does your DS text?  I don't think my 10 YO knows how yet but he has started asking when he's allowed his own phone, My old fashioned self would put it off indefinately if I could but I've used m/s as that time for his sisters and that's when he'll be allowed one too.</p>

He uses the text feature on his iPod. He doesn't have a phone yet, he'll get one over the summer before middle school. But he's been texting and Facetiming since he got the iPod. It is a great way for him to stay in touch w/his cousins who live 7 hours away. I'm not a technophobe. I don't think keeping electronics out of my kids' hands is doing them any favors in a society increasingly dependent on developing technology.

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 1:40pm

double post

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 1:39pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p>Anyone else the irony between the last thread and over supervising at parties (underage drinking) and now not following a child closely?</p>

Apparently between that thread and this thread one poster aged eight years from Hazeleyes 2005 to 2013. With age comes wisdom?

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:39pm

Anyone else the irony between the last thread and over supervising at parties (underage drinking) and now not following a child closely?

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:35pm

bordwithyou wrote:
There are many people who believe that teaching kids to cook/bake amounts to "making them how up too fast" and that it is the mother's job to serve the family, and that she's being neglectful and lazy if the teens have to cook, do laundry, and have household chores. I've never understood that attitude, yet it's been repeatedly defended right here on this very board.

Yes, I have been accused of that on this board, now it's the right thing to do.  Interesting.

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:33pm

Yes, helicopter parenting exists.

I have read a few of the responses so far and find them interesting.  I remember in past debates where my theory of teaching kids to take care of themselves, their surroundings and to be a part of the chores of the family had a reaction of why are you making your kids grow up to fast.  I am an overprotective parent at time, but mostly only in times where there is danger or possible danger.  I am a strict but fair parent and I ask way too many questions if you ask my children.

I have seen helicopter parenting in real life, school, sports and here on the this board in debates.  To me hp is controlling situations that surround your child.  Their friendships, the interaction between kids and having to be the one in control.  

One of the most common examples that I see involves sports and parents coaching their children from the stands instead of letting the coaches coach.  

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:19pm
I get that Jam how it is hard to let go of kids but if there is nothing else in a woman's life (no matter if you work or not) throughout the years when they are raising children, it is devastating for them to give up that part of their lives instead of celebrating it.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:18pm

SAH is a wonderful dynamic for some families and I can see where it would be hard to let go esp with older ones. 

 


 


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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:17pm
I don't see the need for a cellphone in elementary school (or at least in my school). He can text though as well as do many things on the computer, laptop, ipad that I can't even figure out. lol.

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