Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:19pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p>Laptop was needed for school--typing reports and doing powerpoint presentations. That started in third grade--pretty sure that's when he got the laptop, ninth bday in 3rd grade. I'd say 90%-95% of his peers have their own laptops. It may not be a need where you are, but it is here. Particularly since my computer is used for school and DH's is used for work. So DS got his own for HIS schoolwork. I'm guessing he'll have tablet by the time he's in high school...although I'll likely just upgrade my own iPad and give him my current one. Again--not necessary, but totally awesome to take notes and infinitely more portable than a laptop.</p><p>He doesn't need a cell phone next year. He wants one. As I recall, I survived until the ripe old age of 22 or 23 w/o one, so it's not like he couldn't survive without one. But it will make his life easier and make my life easier, so he'll get one. But I don't pretend he needs it. He doesn't. It isn't any more of a necessity than his X Box.</p>

A computer is needed for both of my kids (they share one laptop that I purchased a number of years ago) for school, most of their papers are submitted electronically and many have online projects.  They also use other medias for their homework in addition to a computer.  They can and do use the school computers (laptops as well) but they are not allowed offsite and their work can't always be completed during the school day and/or before the library closes.

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:21pm

That's good, And we have a president in office who will keep things pretty affordable at least until my oldest starts college!  Bless them all.

 


 


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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:27pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
Same thing with our kids too Jam. We always stayed at birthday parties in elementary school.Most parents are friends and enjoy the time they can spend together while the kids are off doing their party thing.

We rarely stayed past 6 or 7 years of age, I think...been a long time ago, but not all the way through elementary school age for sure, around 1st or 2nd grade depending on the type of party.  I'm friends with the majority of my kids parents as well but birthday parties were more about the kid than adult social time in my experiences.  We socialize on a regular basis with many of those same parents, without the kids, lol.

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:29pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>You're too much of a social butterfly to just drop your kid off and leave. </p>

But isn't a kids birthday party about the kid and not a social opportunity for parents?  

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:30pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
Lol Jam. We just enjoy talking with the other parents and many of the parties are the same people and it is good to know the families of your friends kids :)

I totally agree, about good to know the famlies of your kids friends. Do you still go to the birthday parties now that the kids are older? 

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:36pm
Since parties are usually only an hour and a half at that age and many are not close to home, it just makes sense to stay.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:38pm
I depends on the location of the party and the type and of course the relationship to the parents. The youngest child mostly, not the teenager though unless special circumstances.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:40pm
It depends on the location of the party and many times the relationship to the parents. The youngest child mostly though more than the teenager unless it is a different circumstance.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:41pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
Jam-my dh is more of a social butterfly but after so many years of schools, you become friends with many of the parents or at least know them well enough to talk to them. I think it is good to know the parents of your children's friends even starting in elementary school. Again, this might be a regional thing just dropping off your child but I have seen parents who do that (far and few between) and they are usually the parents who are not very social and you barely see them at school functions either.

It must be a regional thing because there really isn't any connection (ime) between kids birthday parties, being friends with the parents of my kids friends and/or attending school functions.  Is that the only connection you have with the parents on a regular basis?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 4:43pm
No, we have always been close to our kids parents, especially when they were younger. In daycare we were very close to the parents and still to this day do things with the parents with and without the kids.

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