Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 

 

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 10:56am
I agree. It is just sad that these kids won't know anything else but computers in the future. The post offices will eventually close. No hand written letters. They have lost how to communicate with the outside world the way we do.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 10:58am
It is crazy. I have a friend who is upset that once the kids get to middle school, you can't just drop in and see them or bring them something. Really? Why would you want or need to do that? Maybe it is because she is a SAHM and I am tending to see the SAHM's and WOHM's not being able to let go of their kids as much as the ones who did when their child was an infant or toddler in daycare. It was VERY hard to do that but it showed them some independence and that you don't need mommy every step of the way.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 10:59am
I don't even follow my child that closely now as a teenager. I do have access through phones and facebook though to follow if I needed to but luckily the child has chosen good friends that I don't have to worry when she is at their homes for the day or all night.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:01am

DH works with somebody that's married but with no kids, When they were looking for a house he said they wanted one without a kitchen b/c his wife doesn't cook, Seriously! 

 


 


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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:05am

My kids still send old school thank you notes through USPS as appropriate. There is value in teaching kids those skills and who doesn't love fun snail mail these days? I send notes in their lunches. It's fun.

Personally, I love iChat messages just before bed from my oldest telling me he loves me and good night. :) And yes, he says it all the time in person. But the messages are particularly sweet, esp. if he texts from a sleepover or something. 

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:07am

I cook most of the time but my 15 YO and 13 YO both help, When I get the ewws to what I fix I point them to my cookbooks, I swear those are going to be house warming gifts when they move out, Lol. 

 


 


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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:10am

The best thing my mother did for me was make me make my own phone calls.  If i said "what time is the movie" she say "call the theater and find out" if I said "I wonder if the library has this book" she'd say "call the theater and find out"  When I was graduating from high school (back in the dark ages) I was selected to give a speech and I had recently heard a speech by the mayor contrasting differences between a certain year and the current year and I wanted to structure my speech to contrast differences between the year my classmates and I were born and the year we graduated. my mother said she would not support that until i called the mayor and asked her permission to use the general theme she had used.  The conversation I had with the mayor was one of the best I can remember and I will never forget how supportive she was of me and how impressed she was I had made the call myself.  

in my line of work we employ alot of college interns and its amazing how paralyzed so many of them are by making a phone call.  no you can not email them , no you can not text them, pick up the phone and call this restaurant and see if they will donate to this event...   the look of terror on their faces is astonishing

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:11am
And yet it's considered irresponsible to allow high school kids to br the next room at a graduation party without an adult monitoring then every minute. Strange.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:11am

The effects on kids and technolgy is yet to come. 

 

 

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:12am

I have no idea what Ichat is, Let me ask my kid, Lol. 

 

 

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