Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 

 

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:18pm
So you don't have time to have any friends then?
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:20pm

I go to the bar with *my* friends ... a few of which happen to be the parents of kids my kids are friends with.    My 3-4 closest friends, adn the others that I spend the most time socializing with, aren't the parents of my kids' friends. In fact, one of them doesn't even have kids.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:21pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
So you don't have time to have any friends then?

How in the world did you jump to THAT conclusion? 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:23pm
So you never have the opportunity to open your life to other people to start friendships with?
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:26pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
So you never have the opportunity to open your life to other people to start friendships with?

Really? Leaping to unfounded, unstated conclusions again? this is getting old really fast.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:48pm
I didn't say it would be. I said "socializing with them all on a friendship basis" would be next to impossible. There are only 24 hours in day, much of which is filled with work, personal responsibilities, parental duties,etc. And there is only so much of me to go around. -----------------how am I leaping? You said it would be next to impossible. If you are saying you have some friends that you are able to go out with, why wouldn't you have time for new friends?
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:55pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
I didn't say it would be. I said "socializing with them all on a friendship basis" would be next to impossible. There are only 24 hours in day, much of which is filled with work, personal responsibilities, parental duties,etc. And there is only so much of me to go around. -----------------how am I leaping? You said it would be next to impossible. If you are saying you have some friends that you are able to go out with, why wouldn't you have time for new friends?

Did you miss the word ALL? If I state I don't have time/energy for friendships with ALL the parents of my kids' friends, somehow that means I don't have any friends? Or never make new friends?

Perhaps the issue is that you don't understand how many friends my kids have.  The Girl alone has such a large circle of friends.  She's a true social butterfly (gee, where in the world does she get *that*? lol)

But, please don't waste any of your energy worrying about me.  I have plenty of friends.  And some of them are even relatively new. In fact, one of my BFFs I just met a couple of years ago and only in the past year have we become so close that she's one of my BFFs. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 10:02pm
No worries over here lol. I have a large group of friends as does my children too. While I don't know all of them on a personal, going out to bar basis, I do know many who I have gone out with. I am only one person too with a full time job, home, husband, kids, hobbies, etc. but I don't have only one group of friends that I do things with. They vary by friends from high school, friends from work, friends that I met at parties, etc, friends from my kids friends. I try to intwine them in doing things but I can't always do that as it is too much many times I have been able to do so and that is how others make new friends too.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 10:04pm
I also have the benefit of not only having my best girlfriends (and guy friends) to hang out alone but we do things with our husbands and wifes/gf's/bf's and kids all the time as we are all friends.
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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 10:05pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
No worries over here lol. I have a large group of friends as does my children too. While I don't know all of them on a personal, going out to bar basis, I do know many who I have gone out with. I am only one person too with a full time job, home, husband, kids, hobbies, etc. but I don't have only one group of friends that I do things with. They vary by friends from high school, friends from work, friends that I met at parties, etc, friends from my kids friends. I try to intwine them in doing things but I can't always do that as it is too much many times I have been able to do so and that is how others make new friends too.

Well, if I don't know them on a personal basis, then they're not a friend; they're just an acquaintance. 

Other than that, your post doesn't reflect anything different than my life. I too do things with more than just one group of people. I too have friends from HS, from work, friends I met at parties, friends I met through my kids,  

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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