Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 


 


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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:46pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">hazeleyes2013</em> wrote:</div>No of course you can't be close friends with everyone you meet but through the years you usually create a bond with people you see on a regular basis at sporting events, school events, etc. Sometimes you do outside things with these people too, at least IME. Yes, that is what everyone has said I believe. ------no others are saying that 3-4 friends is good enough for them and they don't have the time to be friends with everyone. I never said everyone needs to turn into a good friend but to be open enough to let others in your life other than a few friends.</blockquote></p><p>No, 3-4 close friends makes my life rich enough that I don't need to cultivate friendships with people I might not like.  My closest friends make my life very rich -  if I had to give up time with my family or with those friends to make new ones with people that I might not even bond with?  What kind of sense would that be?</p>

I agree with what you said about work friendships.  Do you believe the same about friends at a bar, even parents of your kids' friends?  Can you call bar friends at 3 am?

Curious.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:49pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">hazeleyes2013</em> wrote:</div>Once I though about it and heard other places do the same thing (you can check other people's posts here, I think Tardy said the same thing), I started believing it is not a regional thing but an individual thing.</blockquote></p><p>What region is Tardy in?   Yes, I can check other peoples posts and those I know in my region are saying the same thing that I am saying thus it = regional.</p>

I explain (later?) here that I live in neither Hazeleye nor Jam's regions.  I also don't live in your region.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:51pm

I don't think you could afford it.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:54pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
Another contradiction to previous posts.

Hazeleyes has not been contradictory.  Disagreement doesn't equate to being contradictory.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 1:56pm

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
Yes I did list TV as one as I have said before we are a TV family. I did not say I based everything on that. lol. Please re-read.

I love some reality t.v.  I'll admit it!

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:00pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
  Then why on earth are you using her comments as a point of reference if you don't even know what region she is in?  FYI, I wasn't asking you to post her region, just if you even knew it to use her as a point of reference for your region point.  LoL.

Because I previously said it.  You went back to page 3 to quote Hazeleyes and thus are quite familiar with this entire discussion.

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
  Once I though about it and heard other places do the same thing (you can check other people's posts here, I think Tardy said the same thing), I started believing it is not a regional thing but an individual thing.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:07pm

savcal2011 wrote:
But yet BORD got crucified for not remaning in the same room with her HSer.

Was it a HS'er?   Anyway, either the parents take on the burden of chaperoning an event AT SCHOOL.  Or the school does.  That was the sad thing about the drinking kids story and the school itself.

And no one was crucified.  Perhaps this discussion could be added to my Marissa Mayer WAH discussion.  Distractions, waste, company time.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:13pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
  (Quoting hazeleyes2013:  I've dropped off if no parents stay. I stay (my oldest is in middle school) more often than not because home parties generally have an adult table and buffet. A different menu/tables for the children's food. I don't know if it's regional as I don't think I live near Hazeleyes. This is from Thardy.

pumpkinangel wrote:
  Yes I know, I read her comments and she states that she doesn't know if it's regional or not because she says that she doesn't know the region that you are in...so then how can you use her comments to support your individual theory if you don't know what regions she is in either?   All the while not agreeing with me (and others from my region) who say it's regional?  Hmm.

Ew, Pumpkinangel.  That's an untruth.  I've been consistent that I am not from Hazeleyes part of the world.

Hazeleyes, isn't it Easter soon?  Lent now?  ;) 

I forgot to add her Hmm.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:21pm

rollmops2009 wrote:
.....Here too, like in Hazel's hood, parents are expected to participate in bday parties, for example, and the school also had a fair number of social events.......

Parents "expected"?  Okay, that's a tough 'hood, truly.  Re-affirming this is not a regional thing, clearly an international thing.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:23pm

rollmops2009 wrote:
<p>Hazel, about being open to people. What Hazel describes doing with school acquaintances, we have to do for business. We both find it quite tiring at times, even if it is also often interesting. We do not have the energy to do it for busines and then on top of work having to sit around making polite chit-chat for hours and go to boring social events with the parents from school for no particular good reason. </p>

It sounds like you don't necessarily like the business associates or the parents.  But at least at work you get paid.  Do the parents pay since you're "expected" to help out at their kids' birthday parties? 

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