Helicopter Parenting

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Helicopter Parenting
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 


 


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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:24am
That is exactly what I mean Puss. There is no reason for a child who is able to fill their own plates at home not be able to do it at other functions. Could you help a younger child, of course. My youngest is still not 100% using sharp knives and I get that and will help but it doesn't mean I won't teach them how to do it but no need to watch someone struggle to the point of no return.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:26am
Most kids parties we have had, the presents don't get open at them. But then you don't think you should send a thank you for a shower or any party that the person was there to thank? My mom sends the kids money for special occasions. I email her to let them know they got the gift and then they call her to thank her also.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:31am

I sent thank yous for all my shower gifts b/c that's just what you do, likely b/c many showers are large enough that a more personal thank you is expected. But if a friend gives me a gift and I open it in front of her, I thank profusely in person and don't usually send a thank you note. And ditto my kids. 

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:34am

Saying "I am tending to see the SAHM's and WOHM's not being able to let go of their kids as much as the ones who did when their child was an infant or toddler in daycare. It was VERY hard to do that but it showed them some independence and that you don't need mommy every step of the way." is, in fact, a sweeping generalization of those mothers. If you'd added the word "some" in front of the SAHMs and WOHMs (sic), then it wouldn't be a sweeping generalization. But as written, sweeping generalization.

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:44am

Yes, I get that with the no thank you card if you are opening it up in front of the person but not a large party. I would still send out a thank you card for that.

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:45am
I apologize. I worded it incorrectly.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 11:56am

Ask your friend if her M/S kid wants her there? I asked my M/S kid if moms and dads still meet their kids for lunch and before I could even finish asking she told me absolutely not!  Lol!  But school does welcome my visits if I want to observe. 

 


 


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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:02pm

I think formal announcements and invitations (wedding, graduation) require handwritten thank yous.  But for birthday or holidays, Eh, I encourage my kids to pick up the phone and call their aunts and uncles to thank them, Many of DH's side are on fb so they've shot thank yous that way for that stuff too.

 


 


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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:04pm
Oh I am sure Jam they don't want her there either. They need their own independence too. You can see your kids after school. I don't get how some moms just don't have anything else in their lives. She has 4 kids too and stays at home, 3 in full time school. I would be taking that time to cook, clean, laundry, maybe grabbing lunch with a friend, volunteering in the school (which I know she does but that is not an everyday thing either), etc. Have some other interests outside of your kids.
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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 12:13pm

Ha, Does your DS text?  I don't think my 10 YO knows how yet but he has started asking when he's allowed his own phone, My old fashioned self would put it off indefinately if I could but I've used m/s as that time for his sisters and that's when he'll be allowed one too.

 


 


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