Helicopter Parenting

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Sat, 02-23-2013 - 6:56am

In an effort to move on from the other thread, Lol......  What is helicopter parenting IYO?  Do you see it only at school or in other settings as well?  What does it look like?  Provide examples if you can, Thank you. 

 

 

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:02pm

thardy2001 wrote:
So Pumpkinangel, including me, that's 3 who disagree with you that it's a regional thing.  My experience has been the same as Hazeleyes and Jam.   3 from different regions, same experience.</p>

Oh no!  PumpkinAngel disagreed with the Triummulierate!  That doesn't make her wrong.  We just do things differently here in the crazy midwest.  But not as a region.  As individuals.  Over and over and over and over.  Clearly we're doing it wrong.  Watch us care.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 11:42am

hazeleyes2013 wrote:
Then you don't know what other attendees at kids' parties do or look like if you're just dropping yours off. EXACTLY Jam. But it is a regional thing, you know lololol.

I just said the same thing and didn't have the chance to read your post.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 11:40am

pumpkinangel wrote:
Yes and no.  I agree that more quality time with other kid's parents is good and we become better friends, I just don't think a kids birthday party is the place to spend quality time with other parents.  I think a birthday party for a child is about the child, not an opportunity for me to have social time with other parents. 

That's the problem with dumping and running.  It's impossible to know.  The child will always be, as you intimate, "celebrated," while children and adults alike spend quality time together.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 11:32am

jamblessedthree wrote:
  It's an individual thing not regional thing.

pumkinangel wrote:
  I disagree, clearly things are done differently in different regions of the country.

So Pumpkinangel, including me, that's 3 who disagree with you that it's a regional thing.  My experience has been the same as Hazeleyes and Jam.   3 from different regions, same experience.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 11:08am
Then you don't know what other attendees at kids' parties do or look like if you're just dropping yours off. EXACTLY Jam. But it is a regional thing, you know lololol.
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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 11:07am
Nope hazeleyes, You're nolonger that social animal you pretend to be on Fb, So stop trying! (wink);-) -----lol Jam. I love having parties but it is a lot of work. We just did NYE and had a ball. My house is not very big but I usually invite so many people and then worry where to put them as I can't cut down many people anymore lol. It always works out though and because they are friends, they could care less if they are sitting on the floor or standing up. We all just want to spend time together.
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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 11:04am
The # friends you have doesn't make you a social butterfly. The ability to avail yourself to others and different social circles does.. And it's typically an observation (IME anyway, Lol) people make about others not ones own self...... Strange. ----exactly and I wouldn't consider myself a social butterfly but I do enjoy doing things with my friends, having them over and entertaining. It is all about balancing. You can't have all of one thing or another. That is why some friends are only seen a few times a year and others on a regular basis.
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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 10:59am

'  I kind of go by the theory of do not do for a child something they can do for themselves.  But then I have been acused on this forum at times of being a neglectful parent. "   Emptynester

Hear, hear.  In my experience, one of (if not the best) way of raising independent adults.

CHris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 10:59am
Said what? There is zero context to know what you are asking, there is a little green quote button on the right hand side, it is a very nice button. -----where I said I attend the parties of my high schooler.
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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 10:59am
My favorite new FB-taught phrase is "...said no one, ever."

Shaking my head at the things grown women get their panties in a wad about.

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