Joy got her name because she brought joy to our family. Her middle name was the name of dh's sister who died at birth. We just picked Erica or Eric for Erica and her middle name was picked because it went with Erica. I think that Erica picked Angela's name and her middle name was picked because it went with Angela. Erica also picked Dylan's name and his middle name is dh's name. Erica was the only one that we had a name for the opposite sex. And Eric was by default.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
When I was pregnant, dh came up with several names, one more horrifyingly awful than the next. His idea was to name the child after some heroic figure of Greek history. The next option was to name the child for his parents (traditional among Greeks for the oldest child). But there were already kids named after his parents, and we do not like his mother or her name, Helen, anyway. We went through all the female relatives on both side of dh's family and they were all named Helen or Katherine. It was ridiculous. Then we tried my mother, but she is a Danish version of Katherine. I would gladly have used my grandmother's name, Anne-Marie, but that is also the name of the ex-queen of Greece and would carry heavy political connotations in Greece.
Then we tried to come up with different names. I wanted Alexandra/Alexander since it is a family name in my family, but dh really did not like it for some reason. The name also had to be something that could be pronounced euphonically in all three languages (Greek, Danish and English) and that is surprisingly hard. I liked Eugenia, for example, but it sounds absolutely horrible in Danish. So, dd was not named until after she arrived and it was a sudden inspiration. It has worked out OK, except she insists that everyone pronounce her name the Greek way, which is quite difficult for anyone but a Greek. Which is why I had wanted Alexandra, harumph! (it sounds the same in all the languages).
My son's name was picked out before we even got married or were engaged. It was a name from a TV show that we both loved and were able to use it 13 years later. His middle name was chosen from a bunch we liked.
My daughter's name was picked from 30 girl's names I liked. My dh liked only 2, her name being one of them. Her middle name was also chosen from a bunch we liked.
all 3 of my kids have pretty strong names.
2 of the 3 names are shortened to nicknames,we've never shortened DS name.
The boys first names were chosen based on my family's heritage as they would have dh's heritage through his last name.
My all time favorite girl name has always been Meredith but we didn't use it at all. At our wedding reception our videographer had us say hi to our future children. We said hi to Meredith Elaine and Brett
Our daughter is the first grandchild on both sides, so choosing a name got kind of political. For her first name, we really liked some of the names you see on 18th century New England gravestones (the strong Biblical names, not the virtue names like Submit and Patience!), so we chose Abigail, who was one of the wives of King David. Her middle name is my maiden name.
Our son is a 4th so we didn't have much choosing to do there.