How do people CARE so much?

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How do people CARE so much?
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 4:18pm

Let me tell you some things that I am NOT. I am not someone who:

Eats nothing but organic fruits and vegetables.

Buys all my produce locally.

Cooks from scratch.

Bans all simple carbohydrates and preservatives from the house.

Doesn't allow more than 30 seconds a day of TV time.

Spends hours a day cleaning.

Uses only all-natural cleaners and detergents.

Feels an obligation to personally shell out all $200,000+ for my kids to go to college.

Has my children enrolled in Gymboree or Soccer Tots or Future Perfectionists of America

Scrapbooks every moment of my children's lives.

Uses only natural wooden toys and organic cloth diapers.

Feels the need to either climb the corporate ladder or feels the need to be present to witness every single one of my child's "firsts".


Egad, how on earth do people CARE about so much stuff without going crazy?


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Registered: 12-01-2009
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 4:31pm

I love you.... I may have to propose

you rock...

...from this junk food eating, reality tv watching, non house cleaning, non breast feeding (goodlord I hope not the kids nearly 11), non craft-doing, non-cooking, non scrapbooking, soda drinking, wine drinking, sarcastic

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 4:41pm
LOL, at 11 years old, I would certainly hope that Liza had moved past the breastfeeding stage!

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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 5:13pm



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Registered: 05-19-2009
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 5:27pm
Ummm, you can't. You can pick a couple of those that you feel strongly about. But not all of them! You would self-destruct!

In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."

In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 5:40pm
I agree. It's rather pleasant when one can care about none of them, though. This is kind of my response to all those times when one person says something like "We had mac-n-cheese for dinner, BUT we made it ourselves from scratch using real cheese and whole wheat macaroni and used it as an opportunity to teach our children cooking skills so that they can be self-sufficient when we send them to college which we're saving for by clipping coupons and buying in bulk directly from organic local farmers, blah, blah, blah . . ." OMG, stop justifying that you had mac-n-cheese! We won't call the parenting police on you!

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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 6:17pm

LOL, I do get where you are coming from, and I do not buy all organic, my kid had some formula etc, etc. OTOH, some things I really do care about. So, if I am telling you all the reasons why I care about a certain thing, or explaining to you how much I care about that thing, I may well come across as an anal-retentive, screaming lunatic at that particular moment.

It IS very important to me to send my kid through college, at least, grad school if practical/reasonable/necessary.

I can honestly say that my kid has never had macaroni and cheese from a box, not once. However, it is not really because I am such an amazing, all-organic, all-from-scratch, whole wheat cooking person. It is mainly because I find macaroni, that elbow, hollow kind, completely gross and inedible. The texture is all wrong for pasta, IMO. She has had plenty of penne (not whole wheat) with a sauce of peas or spinach, cream and cheese.

Then, there are probably things that you care about that I am happy to let whistle in the wind, except it may never come up in a place like this, so neither one of us will ever know. All that said, I must add that the older I get, the more I am likely to shrug and say "whateva!" Perhaps you are simply wise beyond your years ;).

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Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.

Oscar Wilde

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Registered: 05-19-2009
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 6:42pm

Oh come on admit it . . . I don't think you would be into that gluey cheese or powdery cheese that is in boxed macaroni & cheese!

Hee hee funny story--or at least I find it funny. My 6 year old cousin was over at our house back when I was 8 or 9. My mom made macaroni & cheese for the meal (yes from a box). My little cousin raved about how good it was and asked for the recipe. He said his mom made mac and cheese that he didn't like & it was burnt, etc. My mom gave him the box to take home! Yes my aunt always made it homemade.

In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."

In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 7:13pm

I don't know. I don't really know anyone like that, either. I aim for organic when it matters, try to buy as much local produce as I can, but don't feel guilty about buying non-local stuff if I have to; I do tend to cook from scratch but I don't make complicated stuff very often, so it's not hard to do; I find preservatives quite useful in many cases, and although my kids don't have access to TV at home, they probably watch too many movies, and I would love to be a person who doesn't spend a lot of time in home maintenance, but I have a messy family, a lot of pets, and a big house. It takes awhile to clean. I don't use all natural cleaners and detergents although I use as many all-natural as I can. I don't feel an "obligation" to shell out 200K for my kids to go to college, but I am really glad we're in a position to do so, if they kids can benefit from the education. My kids are too old for Gymboree and soccer tots, but they did do some preschool activities that they and I rather enjoyed....and they had a lot of toys, all age-appropriate, and cloth diapers while they were at home.

I kind of consider myself a "middle-of-the-road" kinda gal when it comes to parenting. Others consider me either too uptight or too lax, depending on their particular place on the Standard Scale of Maternal Neurosis. I don't really care too much about what they think as long as my own standards are satisfied.

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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 8:11pm
You find that type of macaroni "gross and inedible". Have you ever given your kid the choice to try it to see if the kid likes it?
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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 9:27pm

Have no idea. Most of my life decisions are based on being lazy or practical. If it was only me and I had unlimited means, I'd eat out 3 meals a day, at least one meal at a fast food place. I eat local and cook from scratch because it's cheaper, it tastes better, and I love to bake bread. Breastfeeding and cloth diapers were because I could, it was easy, cheap, and I love the look of prefolds and pins on a baby/toddler. And I couldn't go without my TV. I watch it while I sew. If I could sew and post on message boards at the same time, I'd do that too. Cleaning is last on any to do list. I use vinegar and borax to clean because they are cheep and they do the job.

What anyone else chooses to do is up to them.


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