How do you define a "Sheltered" Life?

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Registered: 01-09-2009
How do you define a "Sheltered" Life?
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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 11:39am
Thought I'd bring up this topic as some people think I have lived a "sheltered life" because I went from living in my parents home to getting married and not living on my own. I was curious of what everyone's definition of living a "sheltered life" is.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
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Hmmm...let me get back to you as I will have to ask the person who did it. Thanks :)

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Registered: 03-27-2000

What does that have to do with anything? You still can't just "quit" the military and walk out like you can in a civilian job.

How do I know? Because I am married to someone who "left" the military. I also know many many many people who have "left" the military.

In fact, my last FT job was given to me b/c the person who was supposed to be hired for the job WAS in the military but had put in her papers to "get out." However, the Navy wouldn't let her get out of her job in time to start in the civilian job that she was offered. She then recommended me for that civilian position that she was hoping to have and I was hired for it.

You can't just decide one day that you no longer like your military job, go into the office and tell them you are quitting and then not come back. It doesn't work that way. You would be either guilty of desertion or being AWOL and subject to arrest by the military.

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Registered: 05-22-2008
I know many, many people who have left the military. I know of many, many more who have chosen to re-enlist, or continue their service for a lifetime.
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You know what? About the depth of my love??
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Registered: 03-27-2000
Well, I don't have to ask anyone because I am married to someone who left the military after 8 years of service. And he didn't just "leave" one day when he decided he was ready. There was all kinds of paperwork as well as approvals necessary b/c he could be officially separated. Otherwise, he would have been breaking military law. You can't just walk out of your job in the military like you can a civilian job.
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Registered: 03-27-2000

YEP!

Edited to add, that because my husband graduated from a military academy, he was required to fulfill five years of military service. If he attempted to quit before that, he would have been required to repay the Navy the equivalent of what his education cost, which is over $100K. He couldn't have just "left" if he wanted to until he had served at least five years.




Edited 1/21/2009 8:58 am ET by merella
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Registered: 08-31-2008
Do you work in a war zone, or defend the country against terrorists? I think they deserve the bonuses. I think it is a pittance for the sacrifices they make and the danger they take on. In my civilian field, 30K is the average yearly bonus top performers.

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