How to Get Your Child to Open Up & Talk

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How to Get Your Child to Open Up & Talk
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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 12:25pm

How to Get Your Child to Open Up and Talk about the School Day
You know the answer before you ask the question.

How was school today? Fine.
What did you do? Nothing.

What do you say to get the dialogue going and bring your child out of his shell?

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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 2:34pm
I usually take the approach that if the kid wants to tell me something, she will. I see no reason to push it. Also, I usually just ask if she had a nice day.
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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 2:39pm

If I am looking for an answer that is more specific, then I ask a more specific question.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 9:15pm

Walking Dylan home from school. Driving home just wasn't long enough. In between all his other chatter, I got the gist of his day. When I picked him up, I'd ask what was the best/worst thing about his day. And then just listen to his saga about lizard men and his usual stream of consciousness chatter. In there somewhere were nuggets of his day. I'd just have to listen.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 11:01pm
I'm actually looking for ways to get the kid to stop talking, lol.

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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 2:02am
Yeah, well, that too, lol.
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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 2:42am

When John was a small, sweet, QUIET infant, my mother told me, "You'll spend the first year of his life teaching him to talk, and the rest of it begging him to stop."

;) (I believed she was confusing him with me, but as it turned out THAT little nut fell right at the foot of the oak ;)

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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 6:52am

the opportunity for us is after school.


when my oldest two were really small i used to say,tell me what was great about your day today then a,what wasn't so good about your day today...the answers were simple but honest about their day.

 

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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 10:25am

Isn't it funny how different kids are? one sure fire way for me to get Liza rolling her eyes and clamming up is to offer a "when I was a kid" example... LOL.

She saves up a week of stuff from the week she's at her dads house for me every Monday -- it's like a verbal assault of everything that happened the preceeding week --then for the week she's with me I tend to get daily updates -- sometimes so much that I have to say "Pause!" and press an imaginary pause button so I can you know -- get in the car or go to the bathroom or something LOL

Talking about stuff has never been a problem for Liza! LOL

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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 5:01pm
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