How old is old enough to stay at the ...

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Registered: 12-29-1999
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Mon, 11-24-2003 - 10:50am

How old is old enough to stay at the Thxgvg dinner table the whole time?



  • 1 yo
  • 2 yo
  • 3 yo
  • 4 yo
  • 5 yo
  • 6 yo
  • 7 yo
  • 8 yo
  • 9 yo
  • 10 yo


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Registered: 12-29-1999
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 10:55am
I'm curious b/c this came up this weekend (had Thanksgiving w/the ILs). DS had already had a meal w/his other g-ma when we had our other Thanksgiving dinner. He didn't want to eat much or sit very long, so I let him get up and play (I could see him from where we were). SIL wouldn't let DN get up and play, although kept saying he was finished and they eventually gave in.

DS will be two in January, DN will be three in February. After DS told me he was "all done" and I let him get up, we proceeded to go to the living room and play quietly w/his toys until we finished, which I thought was better for all concerned that the alternative--him squirming and screeching b/c I "made" him stay.

WWYD? C

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 11:07am
I think 2yo is too young to expect a child to be able to sit still for long for ANY activity-much less sitting at a boring table with the grownups, LOL!

My ds is 4 and will sit long enough to eat, but then he asks to be excused. I'd never try to force him to just sit there.

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Dj

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 11:58am

I really cannot answer this, b/c that isn't the way we do Thanksgiving dinner.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:05pm
I believe a child of ANY age can join the Turkey day table, BUT the reason I voted on the older end is the phrase at the end "THE WHOLE TIME".

Holiday meals can last for almost 2 hours! Is it reasonable to expect a 4yo to sit still that long, really?

Just a thought.

Merrilyn

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:05pm
Do you say Grace before you start eating?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:07pm
My kids still eat at the kids table!

I'm guessing 30.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:17pm

Heck I ate at the kids table until I had Zak. My 16 year old cousin asked last year how she can get moved up without anyone dying. Without thinking, I blurted, "Have a baby. It worked for me." Her father is a minister and he could not decide whether to laugh or glare.


I try not to make the kids stay long at the table. It makes me a nervous wreck and I don't like to share my chess pie. They are excused after eating. When we are at MIL, I use checking on the kids as an excuse to leave the table early. No, I am not beyond using my kids to my benefit.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:38pm
I can't decide because I really feel it depends on the child. My DS1 is very mature, loves being around adults and would be fine at the table for a long period of time. He's always been like this. My DS2 is 9 and is not happy sitting at the dinner table for any length of time. He gets very antsy.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:42pm
My great grandmother ate at the kids table until she died--at 84. She always said she'd rather eat at the fun table than with the "old" people. She was something else...I remember her flying down our slide in the backyard saying, "I'm not 71, I'm 17." My parents were terrified she'd break a hip, but she never did.

She really believed age was a state of mind. Thanks for reminding me of that and making me smile! Christi

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Mon, 11-24-2003 - 2:12pm
I was trying to decide if I should have our boys at the "grownups table" this year or not. There will be 10 of us; 7 adults, 3 children, ages 6, 9 and 10. My DR table will *just* fit 10 people. It will be crowded, but then the kids get to eat with us. If I put them at the "kids table" in the kitchen where they would probably be most comfortable, it will make the DR table much roomier. Then when the kids are done they can get up and go to the play room if they want.

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