Humpday Headaches ...

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Wed, 07-23-2014 - 11:05am

I have a lingering, but not bad, headache today. I got new glasses yesterday and that may be the cause.  I also may have to take them back to be adjusted or even remade, because my left eye isn't focusing right in them.  But, I'll give it another day or so.   Anyone else have a really hard time adjusting to new glasses? I go through this every time. Ugh.

So, fluff for relief ...

Do you know how to ride a horse? When was the last time you did so?

Do you know how to ski? When was the last time you did so?

Did you ever have some weird or odd one-time job? Or do anything odd to earn money for a summer as a kid?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:01pm

<<You have experience paying. It doesn't sound like you have much experience in what others do.>>


You don't know that; your statement has no basis.  My friends, my kids' friends, my coworkers, etc talk a lot about college and how to pay for it.

<<Yes it has but many people don't have the means to save no matter what college savings plans are out there to utilize.>>

Exactly. "Yes it has".  I made no statements about people having the means.  I will now - many people don't. And many people do.

<<Didn't he save for the majority of their college?>>

We have co-funded our children's college savings.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:01pm

Again, this is the first year the oldest has gotten a job, this summer.  I said that posts ago.  They volunteer here and there when they can, it depends on what the volunteer opportunity is, they are mostly on the weekends though.

Gotcha. So no sports in the summer?

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:01pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">She would only spend a little more than an hour on homework/studying a night? </span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Most often, yes. All the time, no.</span></span></strong></p>

I don't time how long it takes my kids to do homework a night and while work does escalate with grade level any big paper/essay or such is never a one night assignment.  It reminds of the debates we used to get into about computers too, I kno wyour kid has one and I think that's fine but the generality that all kids need them to thrive or succeed is just not true.  DD will probably get one her senior year and we've always said that but I have yet to see laptop as a requirement at any grade level on any school supply list. 

 

 

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:04pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;My dd is in sports and she can easily work 3 hours a day after that if she would like. She actually applied to the library where she can take the bus from sports to and work 6-9. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So, if she's in school until 4ish, sports after that, and works from 6-9, when does she study? (times are estimates - not intended to be a quote from you)</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>School ends at 1:40 and sports do not start until 3:00. She does (and would) do her studying and homework during that time. </strong></p>

Aha.   that's good.   But just over an hour often isn't enough. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:05pm

Question for you, How do you know how long it takes for a child to do homework?  Do you help with homework?  Curious. 

 


 


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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:08pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Question for you, How do you know how long it takes for a child to do homework?  Do you help with homework?  Curious. </p>

Because I"m alive and have eyes and ears and live with my children - so it's fairly easy to observe how much time they spend studying or on homework.

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:12pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;I've heard of a few kids this past year having  hard time getting into the college of their choice, despite having good grades and a gpa, the lack of activities has really hurt them.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I don't know how hard it is to get a job in my area, my older son applied for only one job and got that job, but I do see lots of help wanted signs at a variety of places for teens to work.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>The Girl got the first, and only, job she applied for.  She got hired just hours after she applied and interviewed. I groaned, becasue she is going to always think it's that easy ... lol</p><p>We have a pretty low unemployment rate here, so I expected it to be harder for teens to get a job. But from observations of her friends, it's not hard at all.  If you're willing to work hard and at potentially menial jobs. </p>

I had expected it to be harder as well, but ds did specifically target and apply for a typrical "teen" job.  In our case the purpose of me getting a job was to learn the process, learn to work for someone else/with others, be responsible for his own schedule and earn a little spending money.  Techanically he didn't "need" a job, but the benefits in getting a job were great.

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:14pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">See again, I answered the question you asked, lol.  I was actually speaking of both of my kids, hence the plural use of the word kid into kids.  Again, we have and will continue to pay for all of their needs and again, we would never pay for all of their wants. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So basically you provide the entire 4 years of college, during the school year, for their needs and SOME of their wants. Gotcha.</span></strong></p>

You say that like it's some great revaltion or something, lol.  We have and will provide for their needs from birth through college, perhaps beyond...don't know yet.  We will provide some of their wants, never all of them.  Is this such a shocking thing to you that you couldn't figure that out easily?

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:14pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;I've heard of a few kids this past year having  hard time getting into the college of their choice, despite having good grades and a gpa, the lack of activities has really hurt them.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;I don't know how hard it is to get a job in my area, my older son applied for only one job and got that job, but I do see lots of help wanted signs at a variety of places for teens to work.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The Girl got the first, and only, job she applied for.  She got hired just hours after she applied and interviewed. I groaned, becasue she is going to always think it's that easy ... lol&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;We have a pretty low unemployment rate here, so I expected it to be harder for teens to get a job. But from observations of her friends, it's not hard at all.  If you're willing to work hard and at potentially menial jobs. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I had expected it to be harder as well, but ds did specifically target and apply for a typrical "teen" job.  In our case the purpose of me getting a job was to learn the process, learn to work for someone else/with others, be responsible for his own schedule and earn a little spending money.  Techanically he didn't "need" a job, but the benefits in getting a job were great.</p>

Part of why it was so easy for her was becasue she want to a job fair for a specific employer that was opening up a new store here. So they needed to hire 30-40 people. They did applications and interviews on site.  It's turned into such a good thing for her; August will be 2 years with them, and she's able to transfer from our store to the one where her college is located.  They've also been very very very very good about not overworking the HS kids and working with her somtimes-quite-complicated schedule.  And the pay (and store discounts) is good too!

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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:18pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, this is the first year the oldest has gotten a job, this summer.  I said that posts ago.  They volunteer here and there when they can, it depends on what the volunteer opportunity is, they are mostly on the weekends though.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Gotcha. So no sports in the summer?</span></strong></p>

No, he has sports in the summer.  

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