I have a question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
I have a question.
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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 9:00pm

I've noticed a new line of "argumentation" lately and I am wondering both about the reasons behind it and it's effectiveness.

The line goes this. Somebody mentions something, usually something they are quite happy with. Something like, "Our school has about 30 students per class, but so far we have really high test scores, so I guess it's working out."

And then somebody else says, "Sorry you have such lousy teacher:student ratios in your area."

What's the point?
No new information is being conveyed with the "sorry" comment.
No real sympathy is being either asked for or conveyed, as far as I can tell.
No real debate is taking place. In the example I gave, there could possibly be room for discussion about the relationship of class size to test performance. But the "sorry" comment, I dunno, it seems to me like a veiled putdown or perhaps a veiled brag about how much better off the "sorry" person has it, or perhaps a combination of both. In any case, it stifled discussion/debate, at least from what I have noticed.

Am I missing something?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2009
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 9:22pm

I think you have it right:

"I dunno, it seems to me like a veiled putdown or perhaps a veiled brag about how much better off the "sorry" person has it, or perhaps a combination of both."

In the last thread in which is was quite prevalent I think that it did start out as someone trying to show her superiority over others. But what caused it to continue was others throwing it back at her.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sat, 06-20-2009 - 8:29am

Yep.



iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2009
Sat, 06-20-2009 - 12:57pm
Yes, I can say for myself that my "sorry" statements were not exactly serious.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2009
Sat, 06-20-2009 - 1:02pm
ITA
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Sat, 06-20-2009 - 2:02pm
Yep.

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Ducky

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 9:01am
Ditto!