I was at the beauty shop on Saturday....

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I was at the beauty shop on Saturday....
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 10:20am

to get my hair cut...and there was a little girl getting her hair highlighted right next to where I was getting my hair cut.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 10:53am

Highlights in 3rd grade? That is unusual!!


My MIL is mad at my ex-SIL because she keeps processing my nieces' hair (they are

 

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 11:19am
My DD is in third grade, and some of the girls in her class have highlights added to their hair. There is also at least one who has acrylic nails. Personally, I think this stuff is starting way too early. One one hand, it's not necessarily harmful--I can see the POV that it's just fun, in the same way it's fun for girls to do their hair in braids or curls, or paint their nails, or put on a pretty dress.

On the other hand, I wouldn't let my own DD get highlights at this age. I am very low-maintenance myself, and I don't want to start my DD down the slipperly slope of thinking she needs expensive hair maintenence, nails, makeup, etc. She is beautiful just the way she is, as are most of the girls in her class. They already have perfect skin and natural highlights--I just don't see the point of adding expensive, time-consuming processing.

My DD is just begining to be aware of fashion and looks. I do indulge her by braiding her hair so it will be wavy, or setting it in curls for special events, but at this point I really don't want appearences to be a main concern.

Dana

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 11:39am
Exactly! I wish we could all have such beautiful skin and hair as most young girls! Why make them older before their time? Let them enjoy their natural beauty for as long as possible!!

 

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 11:40am
My dd has been wanting highlights since she was 9 or 10, so I guess it has become more common. I've held out so far, but I am thinking for her 13th birthday, I will take her to get them. I am not into little girls highlighting their hair or wearing makeup or anything like that.

Now I just have to figure out the latest trend-my dd asked me the other day if I could buy her THONG underwear!! Apparently most of the jr high girls wear them now. My initial thought was *Omg NO!* I didnt swtich to thongs till I was in my 20's, and I guess part of me sees them as *sexy*-something for WOMEN to wear, not young girls. But otoh, they are very comfortable and really, its JUST underwear. For now we have compromised and I told her that while I didnt really think it was appropriate for a 12yo to wear thongs, I'd buy her some *prettier* bikini style panties rather than the basic hanes girls white that I've always gotten her. She seemed okay with that.....for now anyway.


dj

Dj

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 11:50am

Thongs????? Oh lord! I'm not ready for that conversation.


But I did notice that *some* of the girls we saw in Miami (jr. high age) liked the thongs

 

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 11:55am

Well, I didn't get my first highlights until my 31st bday!


I wouldn't pay for that kind of hair treatment for my 3rd grader. Nor would I even probably allow it. I don't have a good concrete reason why except that i don't think a 3rd grader should be that concerned about their appearance. But then again, my dd has beautiful blond hair that doesn't need anything but a good shampoo and blowdry.


I have to wonder what value there is in this for a 8-10yo. For me, I have my hair highlighted (only done it 2x) so that I feel better about myself. I don't do it for what others think; that's just a bonus. Does an 8yo have enough self-esteem/appearance issues that she needs highlights to feel good about herself? Is an 8yo so concerned with what others think that she needs highlights?


i guess I just don't get it.

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 12:04pm
Ya know, that is exactly what I thought of when she asked to get some, lol. I've seen the combo of low rise jeans and thongs.....sigh. She swears that is NOT her intent, that she wouldnt let them *show*. I just cant go there yet though, cant envision my baby with a thong, LOL.


dj

Dj

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 12:17pm

I'm not quite sure I believe you that they are comfortable....I just can't envision that.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 12:19pm

I have been thinking about it as my blonde hair gets darker and darker every year or maybe I will hold out until the grey starts to lighten it?


Sometimes, between the wrestling and body noises I am thankful that I have boys.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 12:30pm
The first time I tried them, I thought they were uncomfortable. But then after wearing them a bit, they are WAY more comfy than regular underwear. AND...no panty line. Thats a big one for me, I hate pantylines and think they are beyond tacky, lol.

Dj

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