I won the bad Mommy award last night...

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I won the bad Mommy award last night...
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Wed, 10-29-2003 - 2:54pm
The rest of you can drop out of the competition now. I know you are disappointed but I won it fair and square.

I got mad that Zak would not clean his room last night after he has been confined to his room and I have asked him several times. I lost my temper when I could not open the door so I cleared out his room last night. I took all the toys and clothes on the floor, his comforter which was on the floor and one of his lamps. I told him to stop throwing things and, when he didn't, I came in and took the lamp. Needless to say, there was a lot of yelling and crying.

Once he calmed down and I had calmed down, we made a game plan for cleaning his room by making a chart with daily tasks. I told him he could take his comforter back in his room. He really wanted the lamp and I didn't want to cave-he is suppose to earn stuff back in my master plan.

Then I saw it. The biggest, nastiest bug ever. DH was asleep and I swear the bug was staring at me. I told Zak he could have his lamp if he would kill the bug for me. He did and got his lamp. Yes, I have made my 6 year old child a bug killer. Ducking my head in shame.

Isn't it amazing how your children can push your buttons? And the lengths I will go to stay away from nasty bugs...

Kristi

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 07-06-2003
Wed, 10-29-2003 - 4:11pm
How funny! I did just that same thing when my oldest was about 7. He had also pulled down his curtain rod so I took that also (although, I did not take the lamp). Everything was bundled up in trash bags and put out in the garage until he earned them back. The problem is within a couple of days he didn't miss anything that I had taken out and so had no motivation to earn anything back.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 10-29-2003 - 4:27pm

Nope.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 10-29-2003 - 5:44pm
Funny story: my oldest son who is the one who was determined to have us experience parenthood to the fullest, would absolutely not lift a finger for anything when a teenager. yes, it was very ugly around here. anyhoooo, he is now 21 and living on his own for two years, way easier to get along with, and funnier than anyone you have ever met!!!(except me of course.....LOL). i was on the phone to him the other night, and he was telling me about how great things are going for him, and i could hear water running. i said "whats that noise?". he said, "im cleaning". i said, "you know how?"..........are you ready for this??.....he said, "well, yes mom, the house isnt going to clean itself!". ROFLMAOPMP!!!!!!!!! yes he was being sarcastic, as he realizes now what a butt he was when he was living home. we both had a good laugh, soooooooo, maybe one day you and your son will laugh at this too.
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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 8:57am

btdt...I used to think that I didn't care what dd's room looked like.

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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 9:08am
Oh, pshaw, that's NOTHING. I have made John WAKE UP on a school night to kill spiders before. I'm not much for gender stereotypes, but I remember watching a Designing Women rerun recently, when Delta Burke's character, Suzanne, said, "the man should kill the bugs." and my response was "WORD."
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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 9:11am
I just have to post this.

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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 9:44am
I swear Devin will not kill anything. He has this belief that you should not kill any living creature seeking shelter in your home. He flinches when I stomp on bugs and spiders. We had a snake in our house last year (long story) and he put it in a bag and took it outside. I wanted to run over it and he took it the empty lot. My view: they are in my house. I can kill them or my children can if they are really scary :)

Kristi

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 9:46am
Do share how you earned it. I might get some ideas. You know, there are no secrets on this board...

Kristi

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 9:49am
I haven't woken my children up yet to do the dirty work. It is an excellent idea.

I agree with Suzanne too. Men should kill the bugs. Double word.

Kristi

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 10:19am

Well according to my oldest....I never buy him ANYTHING, let him do ANYTHING, or go ANYWHERE...you get the idea.

PumpkinAngel

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