Interestng article

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Interestng article
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Sun, 05-23-2010 - 10:18am

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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 9:55am

Of our acquaintances, we have > 80% who do not have a SAH parent, but that includes a few families with a single parent who works, not just dual WOHP families.

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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 10:35am

That WAS interesting.

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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 11:55am
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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 1:36pm

The stress level of the DH and DW surprised me. Once my minister was talking about the differences in men and woman and how they communicate and said men tend to the "fixers". You start telling them about an issue you have and they want to fix it and starting telling how to when often what the wife wants is just to vent.

I can relate to the "decompress". A long time ago when I was a SAHM my DH asked me to let him have a little bit of time to decompress at the end of the day instead of hitting him with all barrels as soon as he walked into the door. So I did so.

I recently had to ask the same of him. In most of my work life since returning to work I got home from work before DH but since he changed jobs a year and a half ago some days he beats me home. I had to remind him what he had asked of me long ago and said that I needed the same.

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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 2:40pm

or is it about how parenting skills have all but disappeared? what strikes me is how common parent' bickering and negotiating with their children

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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 2:59pm

I think the fact that they only spent one week with each family makes it hard to tell if these were typical experiences or just what happened to happen that week.

Was negotiating with my kids something I routinely did, no. Can I say that it has never happened in all my years of parenting, no. If I were in this study it could go either way depending on what happened to happen that week.

We all have good and back weeks and not all weeks are the same.

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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 3:40pm
I know we have had stages in our kids lives' that I am glad we don't have to relive, and I am certain that a certain amount of resistance, arguing, bickering, etc typlified some of those stages. Happily now, most of that is a blur and what I remember most are the happy, fun times. But I would be lying if I said I didn't do my share of cajoling, arguing, demanding, and negotiating over the years. Not over jackets and coats, but there were things....there still are things. The younger one wants a mohawk and the older one thinks he should be able to have a game system in his room over the summer "now that I am an adult."
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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 6:15am

it could still be the majority i guess, esp if the other 40-some % is SAH families and singel parent homes.


i don't know how many of the families in my local community are dual working, SAH/WOH or single parent.

 

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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 6:31am

if i could i would revisit stages of my family's life and perhaps

 

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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 10:36am

i'm not expecting anyone to be perfect, or claiming to be perfect myself, but i'm basing this on more than just the battle over the jacket that framed the piece. i'm talking about the tone set by the

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