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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 12:14pm

SAH doesn't stress me, I love SAH much more than WOH. I'm just saying I'm more stressed since SAH, I think it's due to other things. My life has changed a lot since SAH. I went from having one child to having three, I went from hating cleaning to being in charge of most of it, we stopped the maid once I SAH, we got a dog and I'm not a dog person, though I do have high standards for dog care and the dog lovers in this family leave something to be desired, I am taking 3 graduate courses a semester, one of my stepkids no longer goes to his mothers house so he's always here even when my dh is traveling, since I'm SAH with two kids and one part-time, plus a full time stepkid the fact dh travels is more stressful, I have a chronic illness which has not gotten back under control since my pregnancy, it is exacerbated by stress, I have a dd with a physical developmental delay and not too long ago was diagnosed with celiacs, I changed birth control methods and my PMS is like nothing I've ever experienced, etc., etc.

I normally like chaos and change, and I do fine with those, and since my illness is triggered by stress I've learned to really minimize the things I experience as stress in an effective way. But the last couple years have added a lot for me to learn to cope with, and I'm still working on it.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 12:19pm
" People who are very organized, plan ahead well, do not procrastinate,..."

I don't know, sometimes they are the ones who are wound too tight. They plan and are very organized because they don't like unexpected things. At the outer edge, there are the control freaks. Sometimes it is the more laid back ones that are less stressed by life's ups and downs.


This would be me, too, lol.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 12:25pm
There is a certain amount of stress involved in daily life for me...the drive across town in the mornings during the school year, while only ten minutes before 7:15 am, is increasingly unpleasant after that time, and if I leave after 7:30, it can take a full thirty minutes. Sitting in traffic an extra twenty minutes, if the kids have been dawdling or something goes wrong, is enough to make me slightly cranky. For other people, who have a different temperament, I am sure they see it as a great gift that they can spend another twenty minutes of quality time with their little darlings.
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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 12:26pm

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This makes me think of a comedy sketch where the comedian talked about how he and a friend of his (who was high on weed at the time), encountered a bear in the woods. He took off running, but then realized his friend wasn't with him. When he looked back, his friend was raising his hand and pledging to prevent forest fires. The bear went away and the friend said "Man, Smokey is much more intense in person."
Same situation, two different perceptions.












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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 12:30pm
I would be in complete agreement if I (or someone else) had said that "life is stressful", b/c THAT statement is subjective. Perhaps it's just semantics, but I don't think that making the statement that "life is full of stressors" has the same meaning, or that it's subjective in the same way.



It's probably semantics. The original statements seems to have been "Life is full of stresses." That could be interpreted as life is full of events that have the potential to cause stress, or life is full of experiences that are perceived as stressful. If you said life is stressful, that's clearly clearly is only true for those who perceive life as that. If you said life can be stressful, we'll that's pretty true across the board, it has that potential. If you said life is full of stressors, well again that depends on whether a persons life is full of things that stress them out. It's really going to be individual unless you generalize it with qualifier like it has that potential or can be stressful.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 12:54pm

I think the problem comes with anyone saying "Life is....." There's going to be someone who disagrees with it, because for someone, their life might not be that.


 

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 1:10pm
I don't think they were simply judged stressful, they measured each family members cortisol levels as well. If one loves a chaotic life then you'd expect their cortisol levels to be low in times of chaos, and it'd be hard for researchers to then judge that person as stressed.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 1:11pm
If you were exhibiting objetive signs of stress and spitting out high levels of cortisol, they might have some reason to describe your life as stressful. Otherwise, not so much. On the other hand, you wouldn't qualify for the study, because they were studying families with two full time working parents. You work part-time, right?
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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 1:28pm

Recently many of the news outlets were reporting on a study that found a lot stress to be age related. Those in their 20's were at lot more stressed out than the over 50 crowd.

They speculate that it is because of experience. Those in their 50s have a lot more "been there, done it" time under their belts.

I am finding it to be true and think that they are right on their speculation as to why.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 1:33pm
I wonder how much stress is caused by money worries and debt, too, that hopefully people in their fifties have eliminated. I imagine being right out of college, probably with some debt, finding a suitable job, trying to negotiate house and car purchases, trying to figure out if you can afford to have children and when, and all those things are more stressful than being fifty and having all that behind you.

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