..but it's another boy

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..but it's another boy
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Fri, 07-29-2011 - 1:05pm

My good friend, a fellow mom of two boys, recently shared the good news that she's pregnant with number three. As she leaned over her coffee cup to tell me the details, I could see that she was fighting back tears. "Is everything okay?" I

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Sat, 07-30-2011 - 10:25pm

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Sun, 07-31-2011 - 6:10am

For me it was really strange to have a dark-haired, dark-eyed baby. To my mind, babies had white-blond hair and blue eyes, because that is pretty much all I knew as a kid myself. She was also fat, and that was odd too, since even my supposedly fat brother was skinny in comparison.

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Sun, 07-31-2011 - 3:41pm
Yeah, I used to dream about dd1 before she was born, and she was always bald with a few blonde hairs, just like my baby pictures. Imagine my surprise when she was born with a thick black mohawk. It later fell out and grew back in blonde, but that was my first inkling that this parenting thing wasn't going to be all that predictable. ;)
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Sun, 07-31-2011 - 6:00pm

The freaky thing is that I dreamt dd before she was even conceived. In the dream she was an unusually large baby, born with out effort, with dark hair and hazel eyes and looking just like dh. She was 11 lbs, born by C-section and the rest panned out too. In between I had, of course, dismissed the dream and replaced it with my own baby picture, exactly as you describe, lol. But,

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Sun, 07-31-2011 - 8:14pm

I don't know. Just because she's dissapointed, *now*, doesn't mean she won't love the little guy with all her heart. She is likely just mourning she'll never get to raise a daughter. One of my best friends is the mom of SIX boys. (Two stepkids she raised, four biological) and yeah, she was bummed out about never having at least one girl. She is an AMAZING mom, her kids are awesome. But she'll be the first to tell you she was dissapointed at first finding out she would only have all boys.

In my opinion, that is one good thing about gender ultrasound. Finding out the sex, possibly picking out the name, allows you to "bond" with your baby months before they even arrive. As far as "preferring" boys, I've never gotten that. I have a boy and a girl, and although my dd is special needs, I can't imagine preferring she was a boy rather than just who she is.

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Sun, 07-31-2011 - 10:08pm
That is kind of freaky. And 11 lbs! Yowsa.
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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 2:08am

Yes, it was quite weird, and I am not the mystical type by any stretch, but she was almost exactly as in the dream. Turns out her dad was 10lbs at birth, and my midwife claimed that birthweight is to some extent genetic. I did not have diabetes and she was born on her due date.

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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 6:59pm
I think ultrasounds are a double-edged sword. Most women will fall in love with whoever shows up on the day the child is born, but some will spend months mourning a child of the "wrong" sex before it is born. I always figured that if God had wanted me to know in advance what sex my babies were, he would have built a window into my uterus.
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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 7:14pm
OTOH, if someone is going to be disappointed, it might be better to get those feelings over with in advance than experience them on the day of the birth.
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 8:21am

eh,