Kids and resturants

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Kids and resturants
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Sun, 12-12-2004 - 11:57am

Hey all...


Did you have rules about resturants and babies? Or did you just take them everywhere?


Dh and I went to a VERY pricy resturant as a treat for ourselves a couple of weekends ago. All dressed up and having cocktails. Anyway, right next to us is a party with an 8 month old whining in a high chair. Mind you, our reservations were for 8 pm and they sat after we did.


This is incredibly rude, imo, for many reasons.


First of all, most 8 month olds are done by 8 o'clock. Secondly, there are just some resturants that are not meant for babies... a $75 dollar-a-plate resturant being one of them, imo. I do think that older

Meldi

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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 1:22pm

I too had a miscarriage 3 weeks before Thanksgiving and 2 days before my sil gave birth to her first. At that particular Thanksgiving, it was so difficult to see the new baby, watch everyone else pass the baby around and coo.


I was in a dark place too...hearing "It wasn't meant to be." over and over didn't help.


That was a bad Thanksgiving. I don't think the miscarriage "ruined" the holiday for me...it ruined a lot of other

Meldi
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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 1:33pm

You know, I have a genuine NOC (network operations center) at home

Mondo

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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 1:35pm

Oh, is that what you think? Now I get where you are coming from.


When I was talking about my rehearsal dinner being "ruined", I don't look back and think that it was so horrible I wish it hadn't taken place or that I wish I hadn't gotten married at that time. I wish I had spoken up and said something to management.


"Ruined"? Ruined the vision of what it could have been, ruined the plan, I guess. Certainly wrecked the speeches. But was it a horrble nightmare in retrospect, no. But memorable. Even dh remembered when I mentioned this thread to him last night.


meldi

Meldi
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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 1:42pm

I don't like wearing the same thing twice because I like having a new dress. I don't care really if other people saw me in the same thing more than once (esp. if it was something that I felt really great in).


But I don't feel bad at all buying things. Sure other people don't have what we have and we don't have as much as other people have.

Meldi
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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 1:51pm

With DD #2, I can relate. But with DD #1, she slept like CLOCKWORK in the beginning.

Mondo

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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 2:08pm

Kinda off-topic but not really since we are talking about judging others for the way they choose to spend money:


My mother is having some financial difficulties due to some bad decisions in the past. Credit card bills, brand new cars before the old one is paid off, home equity loans and not much retirement. It has been really stressing her and I have trying to get her on a budget.


The other day she turned to me and said, "It must be nice to stay home and get money for doing nothing." After I breathed deep and counted to ten, I said, "Yep. It is alot better than working and having a husband I love still alive."


That is why I hate judgements about money. No, I would never have a $1,000 purse and I could have given the money for Zak's playstation and my computer to charity but I didn't. I have a closet full of new clothes that I can now afford and it gives me pleasure to look at them. Call me superficial but I went three years with nothing. Every extra dollar went to prescriptions and Vandy and Duke and marathons and triathlons or the children. It is my time and I don't think I am a lesser person for buying pretty clothes that fit. I still tithe and I still give to others. My money and my decisions regarding my money is my business. I would doubt someone looking in could understand just as I can't understand some other people's decisions in regards to their lives.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 2:15pm

Totally O/T, but your Mom may find it useful to speak to a financial planner.

Mondo

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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 2:48pm

Her financial mess is a large reason I am considering moving in with her. She supported me while I was unmarried and pregnant without complaint. I can do the same...and get help with the kids!


My mother like me speaks without thinking and she is quite bitter about working right now. I understood but was not happy about her comment.


I am doing Dave Ramsey with her. Emergency fund, budget with money for car repairs, dining out, grocery, utilities etc. We budget every paycheck and so far, so good.


The key to money is controlling money instead of money controlling you. Right now, money is controlling my mother and I have been there...so not fun. She is getting better, though.


You know how we all have our weird radical ideas on this board? Mine is anti debt. I believe the only good debt is house mortgage and even that should be short term. I can go for student loans too but not happily. I am trying my hardest to get my mother to put down her credit cards and stop using the equity loan and become a pay as I go person. It is a rough conversion, though.

"Sometimes evil drives a minivan..." Desperate Housewives


Kristi

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

      &nbs

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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 3:14pm
I don't even chalk that up to optimism or a coping mechanism. To me optimism implies something forward-looking - like believing when you're miscarrying that you'll be able to have another baby in the future. Sounds to me like you weren't doing that so much as keeping things in perspective - that although you were completely aware that you were having a dreadful experience, you knew it didn't mean your life is dreadful.
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In reply to: meldi
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 3:32pm

No, we're not.


The people are what make an event special.

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