Kids Hitting

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Kids Hitting
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Tue, 05-11-2004 - 9:19am

Okay, people, I'm at the end of my rope with DS, and I need some mommy-advice.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: okmrsmommy
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 10:54am

Zak went through the everything is someone's elses fault last year. I just kept repeating that he is ultimately responsible for his stuff and his actions..no one else. I also lost my temper and sent him to his room a couple of times over it.


For hitting, I have told Zak that if he feels like hitting someone he needs to go to his room and punch a pillow. I tolerate alot but no hitting. He gets sent to his room and privelges taken away immediately. He is in the habit of hitting or pushing Alex when he is upset. I asked him what he would do if I hit him when I upset with someone else. It seemed to help. Also, Alex hits him back now and I stay out of it.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
In reply to: okmrsmommy
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 12:58pm

Oh man, have I been there....actually working my way through it again...I guess that means I get another t-shirt, huh?


I went through it with my oldest and now with ds2.

PumpkinAngel

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In reply to: okmrsmommy
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 5:33pm
I'm starting to think it's a phase that no one ever told me about. My DS is 6 and is big into the "fate is against him" game right now too. Esp. WRT physical stuff. Yesterday he came home complaining that a good friend of him "scratched him on purpose." I asked him what they were doing immediately before he was scratched, and the answer? "Punching each other in the legs." Just for kicks, of course. And so I asked him, you were surprised when someone actually got hurt . . . why? Naturally he didn't have a good answer for that, LOL.

I find it most commonly comes up when he's tired.

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In reply to: okmrsmommy
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 7:44pm
<<>> This is very true of my youngest son. even now, at age 16, when he is tired, very crabby, mean spirited. i just keep saying, "i love you" and he just cant be mean anymore!! LOL.

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In reply to: okmrsmommy
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 7:52pm
Oh gosh....its been so long since i dealt with this, im not sure if i remember...LOL!!! see OK, there are advantages to being old!! LOL. well, lee oliver became a little poop when he was about 8 and he got over it at around the age of 19, so you only have 13 years to go, by my estimations.....LOL. sorry, it sounds normal to me. just keep taking nintendo, game cube whatever it is called now, or whatever he enjoys playing with. ground him for a day. say each time he punches a kid he has to go to bed early, or stay inside after school with no "electronic" entertainment....this is what worked for me best. just get settled in there, its a long road, but i promise, there is light at the end of the tunnel!! LOL.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: okmrsmommy
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 9:21am
Yes, this is both Petey and Joey right now.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
In reply to: okmrsmommy
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 10:26am

Personally, if I could get a nickel everytime I said a version of "Get off your brother"....I wouldn't need to win the lotto.


Heidi

PumpkinAngel

PumpkinAngel

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In reply to: okmrsmommy
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 11:06am

"Stop roaring at him like a T-rex.."


"Please don't pinch him...."


"You are hugging way too hard - he's just a little boy..."


"You're going to crush him if you sit on him like that...."

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In reply to: okmrsmommy
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 11:31am

"Stop tormenting your brother"


"Quit putting your feet on your brother"


"Don't pounce on your brother"


"Why is Alex crying? What have you done?"


"Please, for the love of God, quit leading your brother to trouble"


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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In reply to: okmrsmommy
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 4:15pm
"Bart, stop pestering Satan!"

LOL...one of my favorite lines from the Simpsons :)

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