Lack of time--what's the reason?

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Lack of time--what's the reason?
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 6:51pm
Is everyone running out of time & never seem to get your "to do" list done? I'm just wondering because it seems like life is speeding up so much. I've been thinking about it because Oprah magazine focused on Time for this month's issue & so did Parenting & Parents (each had an article to help you make good use of time). In one article, O magazine touched on the opinion that our mother's were busy but they really didn't have the humongous to do lists that we do that are so ridiculously long that it is impossible for anyone to function with. I don't know if that's true or not. I wonder if it is the times we live in--we have emails & internet & cell phones & Blackberries (although I hadn't heard of one until PNJ's mom brought it up) and more mom's are working than ever. But I haven't worked in 7 years & I just feel like I never have enough time. My kids are in 1 or 2 activities but they are in no way overscheduled. I grab some free time for myself & am generally happy--I'm wondering is it the times we live in or just this period of my life (my kids are 7 & 4) that is massively busy? How are you doing on stress & time & free time & to do lists & what do you think?

Vickie

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 7:04pm

I am learning to be more realistic.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 7:25pm

Hi,


There are a lot of distractions today, but I think we can usually learn to limit them. Like, not answering the phone during dinner, or limiting the amount of time you spend on the board (I have to set a timer).

Mondo

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:59pm
No deep thoughts - just wanted to wish you Happy Birthday again.........

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 10:29am
I don't have that problem. Its my beleif that the problem arises when people of what are really the working class masses get an idea into their heads suggesting that their daily lives should involve a lot more downtime than is reasonable. And when people have personality types that don't allow them to exert any reliable control over what will actually get done.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 11:18am
My to-do list has had the same things on it for like two months now, and they keep getting interuppted or superceded, ugh.

I've been meaning to call the state because something got screwed up with w-2s and they say that what the employer reported is different that what the w-2's show. Grumble. That'll be a long discussion that needs to be done childfree, hmmm, find that time!

I've got to have a garage vent fixed that got broken this winter and I haven't found the time to schedule that.

I've got to take the suburban to the dealer, something is beeping somewhere when it starts and we have no idea what. But I'm not gonna take that thing to the dealer with the kiddies.......... and possible have to sit there all day or get a loaner car, which is usually some small teeny thing you can't get carseats in....... I told dh to do it when he has time.

I've got to send out bridal shower invites.

I have to help the bride send out the wedding invites.

I have to go buy the bride a gift...... she had to register at Pottery Barn which is all the way downtown and I don't want to go down there, nor do I want to take my two year old in there, talk about a bull in a china shop.

I have to finish de-junking the house for the parish garage sale next month. I've only done three rooms, there are many more left to do, not to mention the garage itself, ugh.

I need to go through and remove all 2003 bills from the folders and pack them away so that I can put 2004's bills in, which have just been stacked on the office desk as they've been paid because there is not room in the folders for them as the 2003 stuff still sits there. What is it now? Three months worth, lol.

I have 4 rolls of film and two memory sticks from dh's second birthday that are still on the kitchen counter and need to be taken for development.

The ironing pile is reaching Mt. Everest proportions - we've been doing a Just-in-time method of ironing, I iron what ever we need right before we put it on- and I'm just going to cave and drag it all down to the drycleaner and have them deal with it...... but that's still another errand.

I sold ds's nursery furniture since we got him a big boy set for his birthday, and they are coming to pick it up Saturday and I still have to empty all the drawers out and dismantle the crib to fit through the doorway. Then I need to call the furniture place and see when the new stuff is supposed to arrive, it's been two weeks!?!?

I just got invited to two functions I really don't want to attend, but *have* to, so I've got those creeping up on me, I need to find a sitter (dh is invited as well, I haven't told him, he'll be unpleasantly surprised), a dress that I can wear to both and just change with jewelry or a wrap so that people aren't like "didn't you wear that to XXX?".

I have to go to traffic school to exponge the speeding ticket I got in March, 2 hours in a room talking defensive driving with a bunch of teenagers (most likely)- talk about cruel and unusual punishment, oh well, better than the ticket going to the insurance company.

I need to plant flowers in my pots and garden beds. Even if I wanted to pay the landscapers to do it (and I don't, they would not do it my way, and gardening is actually something I enjoy) I'd still have to go pick out the colors/flowers....... I'm thinking red and purple this year. Our home is a dark grey stone/stucco with white accents and black shutters, red and purple look great against it! The year I had ds#2, I had the landscapers take care of it all because I had a newborn......... and they did these awful yellow things, ugliest damn color against a grey home, bleck, I was NOT happy).

The dog needs her claws trimmed, and I won't do it because they are black and I worry I'll hit that nerve/vein in them so I have to take her to the vet, yeah, two kids and a dog pulling on a leash while we wait in the waiting room, that's why I'm psychologically pushing that one to the bottom of my list.

I could go on forever, but my children just got up. Anyone want to trade to-do lists?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 11:41am

Yeah, we tend to think we have to be constantly busy or we aren't being productive enough.


I give up.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 12:03pm

Would you believe I have not one thing on my to do list?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 12:16pm

I would like there to be more sleep time in a night, it goes by so fast....LOL


But for real....I think that organizing and scheduling has a ot to do with whether someone has enough time to do their "to do list".

Tonya
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 2:50pm
I hate you! (as I look at *my* to do list ... though it's not as long as SM's)
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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 6:48pm
No way . . . no fair either! LOL My list isn't as long as Smokey's either. And I don't have to worry about planting until almost Memorial Day! But I have a bunch of other things I should attempt to knock off.

Vickie

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