Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:38pm

<<Yes, stores, I have explained this before and I HAVE explained about the amount of parks in walking distance before. >>

That's really a bummer, I can't imagine being so far away from parks with trees.

Not really, I enjoy walking around my neighborhood. There are trees there and I get to look at everyone's homes. Not sure why you need a park with trees to walk. lol. 

<<As an adult you realize that most things you do require money. >>

I don't know about that, I know that you think that way but that really doesn't have a thing to do with my comment about memories.

And again, I said that kids don't think about money when they make memories. I wouldn't think parents would either but they WOULD realize that money is required to do most things. 

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:39pm

<<And since other threads have said how the entire family can't find much time to get together anymore for older kids working and having cars, I find it amazing now that everyone does everything together all the time and it is TOTALLY free when they do it. lol>>

Well that was pure fiction, lol.  You know, since only nobody said that, lol.


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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:39pm

Well you responded to the question, I wouldn't call it answering the question but I can understand why you would think so.

So you know the answer now?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:41pm

<<Not really, I enjoy walking around my neighborhood. There are trees there and I get to look at everyone's homes. Not sure why you need a park with trees to walk. lol. >>

Did somebody or nobody say need?  I know I didn't. lol.

<<And again, I said that kids don't think about money when they make memories. I wouldn't think parents would either but they WOULD realize that money is required to do most things. >>

I didn't think parents thought that way either, in general of course, until you posted so many posts about how you think money is connecting to memories, lots of posts that connect memories to money.  


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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:43pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well you responded to the question, I wouldn't call it answering the question but I can understand why you would think so.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>So you know the answer now?</span></span></strong></p>

Your circle talk is really entertaining today...read the post morty.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:43pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p>Did I say ALL memories required spending a lot of money Savcal? </p>

1. I didn't say you said they all did.

2. You haven't been able to give any examples of where they didn't.

3. You've disagreed with all examples anyone else has given.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:46pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You guys never played in leaf piles? </span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>As a kid? Nope. We didn't rake the leaves and I can remember maybe just 1 or 2 times doing that. We did other things outside</strong>.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Tossed leaves at each other? </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Not really enough for it to be a memory.</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Planted a garden together? </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">No</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">What about snow?  Are you telling me that you guys have never played in the snow together either?  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">My parents didn't play in the snow with us. My kids usually play together while my dh shovels. I HATE the cold and bundling up so I come out to help if I have to but I am not running around in the snow, no.</span></strong></p>

Such a shame that you can't experience a little discomfort so that your kids can enjoy making memories in the snow with you.  I'd think a parent should sacrifice at least that much. <<sarCHASM disclaimer>>

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:48pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So then why would you say otherwise and state the we were talking about in the moment only?  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">The examples WERE things I do now and in the past. Not sure why I would be interested in free things that I would not do now and speak about them.</span></strong></p>

I don't read PKA's posts for obvious reasons.  Just the bits you quote.  What's supposedly wrong with doing things that cost money since you have the money?  I can understand if you lived where people can't earn a decent salary like misery, but you don't live there.  Is it a bad thing to spend money so that the whole family can be involved?

Because the freebies which do involve the whole family sure do dry up by the time kids are tweens.  That's for sure.  Raking leaves as a family?  LOL!  Skipping down a local country path as a whole family?  {{snort!!}

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:49pm

<<Not really, I enjoy walking around my neighborhood. There are trees there and I get to look at everyone's homes.>.

 

Couldn't you do that with your kids and/or dh and make memories?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:54pm

Your circle talk is really entertaining today...read the post morty.

Not really. After all those posts, you finally found the answer that I have said a few times of my not paying for the kitchen so it was not a burden to me.

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