Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:34pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;So then why would you say otherwise and state the we were talking about in the moment only?  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;The examples WERE things I do now and in the past. Not sure why I would be interested in free things that I would not do now and speak about them.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I don't read PKA's posts for obvious reasons.  Just the bits you quote.  What's supposedly wrong with doing things that cost money since you have the money?  I can understand if you lived where people can't earn a decent salary like misery, but you don't live there.  Is it a bad thing to spend money so that the whole family can be involved?</p><p>Because the freebies which do involve the whole family sure do dry up by the time kids are tweens.  That's for sure.  Raking leaves as a family?  LOL!  Skipping down a local country path as a whole family?  {{snort!!}</p>

Tsk tsk thardy, fibbing again!  Nobody said there was anything wrong with doing things that cost money and mocking other peoples choices is not nice, tsk tsk.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:35pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Your circle talk is really entertaining today...read the post morty.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Not really. After all those posts, you finally found the answer that I have said a few times of my not paying for the kitchen so it was not a burden to me.</span></strong></p>

...and it only took you 100s of posts of talking in circles, congrats!

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:36pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Such a shame that you can't experience a little discomfort so that your kids can enjoy making memories in the snow with you.  I'd think a parent should sacrifice at least that much. </span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Why? People are different. I am sure you would not sacrifice some of the things I do for my kids also. </span></span></strong></p>

Like what, examples please.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:38pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Going to church isn't something I particularly remember from childhood.  And since my family doesn't go to church, your comments are a bit misplaced (if they are directed to me.)</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I do because it was something we HAD to do. It was "free" (in the sense) and it was a memory but not something that I would say I enjoyed doing every.single.week.</span></strong></p>

Your parents didn't give you a choice, do you give your children a choice?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:40pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Homecoming to watch hours of football (none of my kids are even allowed to play that inherently dangerous sport) which my kids do not enjoy watching, just so DH could enjoy watching a game and so we could spend 18 minutes watching the oldest kid play in the marching band is neither fun nor a bonding family experience.  And as I've said, as a taxpayer, it's certainly not free!!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Well I have to disagree with you there with the hours of watching football and I don't even have a kid on the team lol. This is something my ds and I enjoy to do together. My dd would rather go to hang out with her friends or talk (which is a big NO NO for me when I watch football lol). BUT....even though our games are free to go to, there is still things I spend money on. Is this a memory for my ds and I, yes. Is it a TOTALLY free memory, nope as well as many other things we do together. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Ermahgerd.  My children hanging out with tweens costs money too!  Obviously, Halloween.  'Nuf said.  But recently a half day from school meant I had a car full of children and I sure wasn't going to try to decipher what kind of lunches each would want.  So, off to the local burger place.  THAT was a lot of money by the standards of people who think everything can be gotten free!  Home to my house, our tennis court, our trampoline, other "toys."  I know some day their pals' moms will do the same (as they've done in the past too). </p><p>But really, to have a gaggle of kids over to our house on a half day for cheese sandwiches, no snacks and playing cards for FREE??  Not gonna happen!</p>

Interesting, your make believe story has grown legs and now includes friends or rather gaggles of kids, which of course is so different from the reality of what is being discussed.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:40pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;Not really, &lt;strong&gt;I enjoy walking around my neighborhood&lt;/strong&gt;. There are trees there and I get to look at everyone's homes.&amp;gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt; Couldn't you do that with your kids and/or dh and make memories?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Ummm...I do. lol.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>For free? FINALLY. An example of something you can do free with your kids.  See? Those opportuntities DO exist! Thank you for agreeing with me and proving my point.</p>

I heard trumpets playing clear over here....did you hear them?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:42pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Read...the...posts.  {{snort!}}  You're so uppity from the East Coast and all, of course you don't enjoy a family activity unless it 1.) costs money and 2.) costs lots of money.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;*Sarcasm alert*&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;<strong>I guess so. I did give some "free" examples but those were lost as I am being told I am just disagreeing. Maybe because there is so little amount of things that are truly free, it is hard to find in this big, ridiculous thread.</strong>&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>If I had no money, I too would say there's something wrong with you - and your children I guess (nice, no?) - because you don't enjoy raking leaves and skipping down the town's bike paths for FREE. </p>

I believe the only person pointing fingers at what is wrong and right in parenting is, well....you.  

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:43pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Ermahgerd.  My children hanging out with tweens costs money too!  Obviously, Halloween.  'Nuf said.  But recently a half day from school meant I had a car full of children and I sure wasn't going to try to decipher what kind of lunches each would want.  So, off to the local burger place.  THAT was a lot of money by the standards of people who think everything can be gotten free!  Home to my house, our tennis court, our trampoline, other "toys."  I know some day their pals' moms will do the same (as they've done in the past too). </p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">But really, to have a gaggle of kids over to our house on a half day for <strong>cheese sandwiches, no snacks and playing cards for FREE?</strong>?  Not gonna happen!</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Yep but no one else sees that. Maybe they are THOSE parents who do those type of things and that is why they don't get why things require money. </strong></p>

Who are "THOSE" parents and why are you again shouting?  Thardy is the one who has introduced the gaggle of children into her chapters of fictional comments, you realize that....right?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:52pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;Not really, &lt;strong&gt;I enjoy walking around my neighborhood&lt;/strong&gt;. There are trees there and I get to look at everyone's homes.&amp;gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt; Couldn't you do that with your kids and/or dh and make memories?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Ummm...I do. lol.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>For free? FINALLY. An example of something you can do free with your kids.  See? Those opportuntities DO exist! Thank you for agreeing with me and proving my point.</p>

Well no, because you said that you would have to buy clothing to go on this walk and then you diverted to swings, ducks, icecream...really anything you could grasp onto, all to prevent having to agree with bord, sav or myself.  It was quite the journey you took.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:57pm
Actually, *my* favorite museum in StL isn't free. In fact, it's quite expensive. But worth it.

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