Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 9:59pm

bordwithyou wrote:
Nobody is talking about a house with "repairs@ that need to be done other than you, Thardy. I have no idea why you take such joy in coming here and attempting to insult people, but it isn't working, unless your aim is to turn this place into Comedy Central.

Feel better?  Because you know I suggested none of that.

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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 9:59pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Sure it's funny, we're at that point about my dad's house..  He did manage to invest about thirty grand a couple years ago for a composition roof but the interior is very very dated, Lol.  Is it worth the expense or do we just place it out there and hope for the best kind of return (rhetorical)......  Generally an updated house is more sellable than one that's not bord. </p>

My father paid 5K for his current home. It's not updated at all. It is worth 500K as a possible teardown as its beachfront. He has a kitchen that works for him. It's his choice and I don't care.

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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:01pm

<<OMG.  Did someone really ask what kind of records?  Um, a quick look at the title report for the permits issued.  A quick walk through of the house with a contractor.  Reputable furnace and hot water heater maintenance people simply fill out the record cards attached to each for annual maintenance.  Changing the paint, removing the wallpaper **PROPERLY** yields a history of the room!  Morty, what seems more likely is nothing has been done to the house since title was transferred to our boardie.  But I guess she can't just admit that, lol.>>

So you don't have records for paint changes either, thanks....that is what I thought.  Thanks thardy!


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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:01pm
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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:04pm

chestnuthooligan wrote:
<>My father paid 5K for his current home. It's not updated at all. It is worth 500K as a possible teardown as its beachfront. He has a kitchen that works for him. It's his choice and I don't care.</p>

What an ungrateful wretch to leave you with such a mess! 

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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:05pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p>One must also consider the balance between the size of the mortgage and the increased value due to renovations. There is something to be said for a structurally sound house in good condition that is fully paid for vs a completely updated, modernized house that's mortgaged to the hilt. (Of course there is a lot of gray in between)</p>

I don't think that's the important comparison.  You've got to make sure purchase price and cost of improvements don't ever exceed the market value.  We don't do mortgages, but pay outright.  So your balancing wouldn't work for us or some other homeowners I know.

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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:05pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
There's a whole lot of value in replacing laminate with granite... Not just for looks either.

I'm still leaning towards poured concrete and a mix of mediums, perhaps stainless or soapstone?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:06pm

bordwithyou wrote:
Nobody is talking about a house with "repairs@ that need to be done other than you, Thardy. I have no idea why you take such joy in coming here and attempting to insult people, but it isn't working, unless your aim is to turn this place into Comedy Central.

Well, her comments do make me laugh....quite a bit of fictional comedy!

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:08pm

<<Where did I say anything about paint colors? I am talking about major renovations.>>

I'm not and haven't ever been and explained that to you more than once...we haven't had to do any major remodels in my home, it's sound and only cosmetic changes, very similar to what bord was talking about in her kitchen.  You are comparing your need to have major remodels, down to gutting rooms to a cosmetic changes.  Apples to oranges morty.

<<They didn't have the money when they lived in the house to do so.>>

So they put you in a bind when you were young, bummer.


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Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:09pm

mortyswifilee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I believe she fully understands but imagines we're supposed to forget what she said about her own family and acquaintances here years ago. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Yes and the reason she has gotten her peace with it is because the person is deceased. She has shared the details here on ivillage so it is nothing that was found out on the sly. </span></strong></p>

Um...who is deceased?

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