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| Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am |
Kind of joking there. But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best. I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic. Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area. Because of course her kids went there. Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now. 
Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered. Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better? How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices? ....Have you ever been that mom?

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I digress. I thought there was something different about how you saved and spent, Your spending really isn't that different after all.
"I didn't say Morty was frivolous with her money. I said that I'd pay outstanding bills (like a mortgage) with "extra" money before I'd spend it on stuff I hadn't planned on buying, which is part of our different philosophies about money. I was very careful with money for many years. Now we are fortunately in a position where we are able to spend money just for fun on things we want to do, and I am enjoying doing that."
That's great. Glad I didn't have to wait as long as you did to do that though. That is why I believe in saving and spending so I can enjoy my life at the same time. You never know how long you will live.
<<Where did I say anything about paint colors? I am talking about major renovations.>>
I'm not and haven't ever been and explained that to you more than once...we haven't had to do any major remodels in my home, it's sound and only cosmetic changes, very similar to what bord was talking about in her kitchen. You are comparing your need to have major remodels, down to gutting rooms to a cosmetic changes. Apples to oranges morty.
Changing out appliances are not remodels? Didn't you just say you have done this in the other thread?
<<They didn't have the money when they lived in the house to do so.>>
So they put you in a bind when you were young, bummer.
No, as we bought the house when I was about the age of Bord's older child.
1). I have never not enjoyed my life. Luckily, I don't need a lot of "things" to be happy.
I don't consider vacation a "thing". It is an experience and I wouldn't give back those memories to pay more to my mortgage or have money in the bank for ANYTHING.
2). Please edit your post to remove my first name. I don't use it on this board.
Sorry, I didn't even realize I did that. Fixed.
I wasn't suggesting anyone give up vacations in order to pay extra on a mortgage. We were talking about unexpected money in the form of bonuses, gifts, etc. if I had already budgeted for a vacation and my parents surprised me with five hundred bucks to pay for airfare or whatever, I would put that the five hundred I had already budgeted toward bills, and thank my parents profusely. That is how we paid a ten year mortgage off in three years.
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