Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Registered: 10-31-2013
Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:50pm

What part of "free or cheap" is confusing to you, Morty?

The things YOU have spoken about are NOT cheap to everyone and things you consider free are not always free. 

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Registered: 10-31-2013
Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:51pm

You've been going on for years about how "always save" and "never spend," which is just stupid. 

Huh?

I pointed out that we always budget for travel and experiences, and that many of the things we do/did together to make memories on a regular basis are free or cheap.  I don't know what point you are trying to make now.  You keep pointing out how you need to "spend" to make memories. Nobody said everything was free.  Most people, if they have three brain cells to rub together, can figure out some free or cheap fun things to do as a family.  if the cost of making cookies or raking leaves is interfering with your savings goals, perhaps you had better rethink your budget.

Where did say any of this? I am pointing out that the things you consider free are not necessarily free. THAT.IS.ALL.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:53pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Read.  The.  Posts.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I.DID</span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><br /></span></p>

Then you would clearly know that I wasn't talking about your parents house, I was talking about your comments on how Bord needs to update her kitchen as to not be a burden on her children. 

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:54pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">What part of "free or cheap" is confusing to you, Morty?</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>The things YOU have spoken about are NOT cheap to everyone and things you consider free are not always free. </span></span></strong></p>

Those were just EXAMPLES, Morty.  EXAMPLES.  If they don't work for you, pick something else that applies to you in the free or cheap category.   You really go out of your way to be disagreeable, don't you?

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:54pm

Then you would clearly know that I wasn't talking about your parents house, I was talking about your comments on how Bord needs to update her kitchen as to not be a burden on her children. 

They why even bother to mention MY parents? 

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:55pm

Those were just EXAMPLES, Morty.  EXAMPLES.  If they don't work for you, pick something else that applies to you in the free or cheap category.   You really go out of your way to be disagreeable, don't you?

Yes, examples that do not show that they are truly free to do. 

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:58pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Not always on your items...we don't use bags for leaves for example, we are close to a nature trail and our zoo and many museums are free.  I used to go to the zoo all the time with my kids, packed a lunch and we had a blast.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That is great that you could do that for free. Not all people can and if you start thinking about it, there is a cost associated with most things. Not sure how you could deny that.</span></strong></p>

It doesn't have to be the same for all people, people are different and make memories in different ways.  Nobody said there wasn't a cost associated with things if you string it out far enough.  You are the one who said that bord wasn't living life because she chose to save and spend instead of just spend.  We are trying to explain to you that there are free activities and low cost activites that can easily make memories, one doesn't need to spend, spend, spend to make memories.  You are missing the bigger picture here.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:03pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Those were just EXAMPLES, Morty.  EXAMPLES.  If they don't work for you, pick something else that applies to you in the free or cheap category.   You really go out of your way to be disagreeable, don't you?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yes, examples that do not show that they are truly free to do. </span></strong></p>

Free OR cheap, Morty.  You understand the function of the word "or" in the English language, correct?  You understand the concept of "example," right?   You are just going out of your way to be unpleasant.  I am so sorry I never got a chance to meet that young, innocent, pleasant girl you claim to have once been.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:04pm

It doesn't have to be the same for all people, people are different and make memories in different ways.  

Yes, and?

Nobody said there wasn't a cost associated with things if you string it out far enough.  You are the one who said that bord wasn't living life because she chose to save and spend instead of just spend.  We are trying to explain to you that there are free activities and low cost activites that can easily make memories, one doesn't need to spend, spend, spend to make memories.  You are missing the bigger picture here.

Nope, I am NOT missing the big picture. I am just a realist and know that there is not much for free.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:04pm

Free OR cheap, Morty.  You understand the function of the word "or" in the English language, correct?  You understand the concept of "example," right?   You are just going out of your way to be unpleasant.  I am so sorry I never got a chance to meet that young, innocent, pleasant girl you claim to have once been.

Why are you getting so upset? I am a realist. If you truly think about it, then you would understand what I am saying.

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