Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:11pm

Those enriching experiences hold a lot of memories I'm sure bord.  Like morty said - Memories cost money.

 


 


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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:17pm
By your definition Morty, NO activity is free, unless it's an activity you do naked.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:23pm

By your definition Morty, NO activity is free, unless it's an activity you do naked.

Hmmm....that might not be free either. Bawhhhaaaa....

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:27pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Maybe too much of a realist? </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why? </span></strong></p>

Because your missing the point that memories aren't tied to money.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:28pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You are missing the bigger picture....one can save money and still enjoy life, despite your comments otherwise.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Again, I have said over and over that I DO save money also, did you miss my post about my savings? I also know that most things require money.</span></span></strong></p>

So then your comments about bord not living life are totally pointless, if you are doing the same thing.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:29pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Those enriching experiences hold a lot of memories I'm sure bord.  Like morty said - Memories cost money.</p>

Some things cost a lot of money.  Some things are moderately priced.  Some things are cheap.  Some things are free.  Nobody really knows what kids will remember and value as they grow older.  My philosophy was to pack them full of pleasant and stimulating activities and see what stuck.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:29pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well, I said "free or cheap."  The ingredients for cookies and tea and bags for leaves would be things that I would have in the house anyway, no special extra cost involved in creating family rituals around baking, having a cup of tea together, or an annual yard clean-up together.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You might have them in your house but you STILL had to buy them and the things to bake the cookies (baking sheets, cooling rack, etc). </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">A small amount of gas to get to the zoo or the trailhead isn't a problem for most people, and we always have appropriate clothes and shoes for a walk, that's not an issue. </span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>It all depends on how far you live from these thing</strong>s.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">$136 in admission for a family of four to go to the zoo is an expensive day, but for $189 you could get an annual membership to both the zoo and the aquarium, and if you visit each twice over the course of a year, it's less than $25 a visit for a family of four, which isn't that big of an expense.  Less than going to the movies.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, it all depends on how far you live to the zoo as we are not close at all and it all depends on the zoo in your area and their offers.</span></strong></p>

I thought you lived close to most things, within walking distance or just a short drive?   

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:32pm

<<What does knowing so many different people have to do with asking for examples?>>

It shows that you can't think of differences, you know, if you have to ask for the differences.  I guess I assumed when you said that you knew people who do things differently than you do, that you had examples of those differences in life.

<<Again, most of these things require some type of money involved. >>

Not really, there isn't any extra money in any of those free things. 


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:33pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You were underage when you purchased your home?  </span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></span><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Nope, I said I was close to Bord's older son's age when I did. </span></strong></p>

So if you think it's a burden for bord's son if she doesn't remodel her kitchen, why wasn't it a burden for you when your parents didn't remodel the kitchen before you bought the house?

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:33pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Free OR cheap, Morty.  You understand the function of the word "or" in the English language, correct?  You understand the concept of "example," right?   You are just going out of your way to be unpleasant.  I am so sorry I never got a chance to meet that young, innocent, pleasant girl you claim to have once been.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why are you getting so upset? I am a realist. If you truly think about it, then you would understand what I am saying.</span></strong></p>

I understand what you are saying.  I just don't think it's worth saying or a particularly enlightening point, and it certainly doesn't do anything to move along the main discussion, which is that you don't have to spend a lot of money to "make memories" with your kid.  Your point about how you need to spend your extra money, rather than save it, in order to make memories, is invalid.   The rest is just persiflage, and it makes it tiresome and unpleasant to talk to you, which is too bad, because somehow I think that beneath all the unpleasantness and beligerance, there was once a girl worth knowing.

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