Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:34pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I don't focus on using money to make memories, I let them happen where they do.  I know that I can save money and still make memories and live my life, I don't live in your either/or world.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Neither do I but I am a realist and know that most things DO require money to do. </span></strong></p>

Except of course, you always mention money when it comes to memories and you don't have any examples of free memories in your life.  Think about that for awhile.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:35pm

Because your missing the point that memories aren't tied to money.

No I am not missing that point.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:36pm

I thought you lived close to most things, within walking distance or just a short drive?  

It all depends on what you are talking about. I also was not just talking about myself. 

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:39pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Then you would clearly know that I wasn't talking about your parents house, I was talking about your comments on how Bord needs to update her kitchen as to not be a burden on her children. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">They why even bother to mention MY parents? </span></strong></p>

In that post I didn't mention your parents.  Here again, for you to read is my comment.

<<I totally agree with the first part, unlike Morty...I don't see my parent's house as in what is in it for me and I hope my children see whatever house we have at that point in time the same way. >>

Not a mention of your parents in there or your parents house because again the comments (if you had read them) refer to the comments that you made about bords house and needing to update it as to not be a burden on her children and for resale value for her kids.

Read.  The.  Posts.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:41pm

<<What does knowing so many different people have to do with asking for examples?>>

It shows that you can't think of differences, you know, if you have to ask for the differences.  I guess I assumed when you said that you knew people who do things differently than you do, that you had examples of those differences in life.

Do you want me to go and ask these people and not here? lololol

<<Again, most of these things require some type of money involved. >>

Not really, there isn't any extra money in any of those free things. 

Which free things?

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:43pm

So if you think it's a burden for bord's son if she doesn't remodel her kitchen, why wasn't it a burden for you when your parents didn't remodel the kitchen before you bought the house?

Again, no because we purchased the house. We weren't trying to sell it.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:43pm

<<t doesn't have to be the same for all people, people are different and make memories in different ways.  

Yes, and?>>

That's its pretty silly for you to say that it's not the same for all people, you know...when that wasn't said.

 <<Nope, I am NOT missing the big picture. I am just a realist and know that there is not much for free.>>

Yea, you are...everytime you write that and show that you can't understand free or low cost memories, you show that you don't see the bigger picture.  Trying moving the dollar signs out of the way, it might help the vision.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:44pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Free OR cheap, Morty.  You understand the function of the word "or" in the English language, correct?  You understand the concept of "example," right?   You are just going out of your way to be unpleasant.  I am so sorry I never got a chance to meet that young, innocent, pleasant girl you claim to have once been.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why are you getting so upset? I am a realist. If you truly think about it, then you would understand what I am saying.</span></strong></p>

If you truly think about it....you wouldn't be missing the bigger picture here.  

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:45pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Those enriching experiences hold a lot of memories I'm sure bord.  Like morty said - Memories cost money.</p>

Wow, I can't imagine connecting memories to money.  

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 1:45pm

savcal2011 wrote:
By your definition Morty, NO activity is free, unless it's an activity you do naked.

Where she would then point out that it takes money to cool or heat the house....

PumpkinAngel

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