Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Registered: 10-31-2013
Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:00pm

Why do you assume that bords kids will try and sell the house?  

I didn't. I was talking about myself and my age and the age of Bord's older ds.

Why did you assume that a kitchen remodel is going to be a burden on anyone when it clearly wasn't a burden on you?

Why do you think it wasn't a burden on me?

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:01pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You go on for post after post about how wonderful your area because everything is so close and etc and you can't come up with a single example of making a free or low cost memory in your area?  Wow.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Hmmmm.....maybe walking and if you are not going to buy something on the way and the library as you don't use much gas to get there and back. Your examples were the same way but you just did not want to see it that way.</span></strong></p>

Why would I go for a walk in the park to buy something?  Can you go a day without spending money?  I can walk or ride a bike to the library and I'm sorry but snuggling with my kids isn't money based, ymmv of course.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:01pm

Then I'm sorry, I hope you can find memories that don't have money tied to them.  Best of luck.

Where did I say that? Is this just your last resort because I am not saying anything that is not the truth?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:02pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why do you assume that bords kids will try and sell the house?  </span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didn't. I was talking about myself and my age and the age of Bord's older ds.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why did you assume that a kitchen remodel is going to be a burden on anyone when it clearly wasn't a burden on you?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why do you think it wasn't a burden on me?</span></strong></p>

Because I asked, and you said it was different...is  this all about you and how you felt when your parents didn't remodel the kitchen so you assume that others will feel the same way?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:04pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Then I'm sorry, I hope you can find memories that don't have money tied to them.  Best of luck.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Where did I say that? Is this just your last resort because I am not saying anything that is not the truth?</span></strong></p>

You are the one who has gone out of their way to disagree with every single "free" memory we have posted.  I haven't seen much truth, lots of disagreeing about free memories, but very little truth from your comments.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:04pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You go on for post after post about how wonderful your area because everything is so close and etc and you can't come up with a single example of making a free or low cost memory in your area?  Wow.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Hmmmm.....maybe walking and if you are not going to buy something on the way and the library as you don't use much gas to get there and back. Your examples were the same way but you just did not want to see it that way.</span></strong></p>

Oh, but you must have clothes and shoes to walk in. Those cost money.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:05pm

mortysswifeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why do you assume that bords kids will try and sell the house?  </span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didn't. I was talking about myself and my age and the age of Bord's older ds.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why did you assume that a kitchen remodel is going to be a burden on anyone when it clearly wasn't a burden on you?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why do you think it wasn't a burden on me?</span></strong></p>

You know, if I ever gave one of my kids the down payment on a house, and that kid turned around and said that upgrading the house was a "burden" on him, I'd turn around and take back the down payment and donate the house to charity.  What kind of ungrateful person even thinks something like that?

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Registered: 10-31-2013
Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:09pm

Why would I go for a walk in the park to buy something?

I said a WALK. If I go for a walk by me, I can easily stop at a store. My park has an ice cream man. 

Can you go a day without spending money?

Yep. I usually have the same amount of money in my pocket at the end of the week. 

 I can walk or ride a bike to the library and I'm sorry but snuggling with my kids isn't money based, ymmv of course.

Bawahhhaaa...I never said I don't snuggle with my kids. 


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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:13pm

Because I asked, and you said it was different...is  this all about you and how you felt when your parents didn't remodel the kitchen so you assume that others will feel the same way?

What???? lololol. Ummm...no. I was talking about reselling a home and getting the most money for having a more desirable home for buyers.

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Thu, 10-31-2013 - 2:17pm

Oh, but you must have clothes and shoes to walk in. Those cost money.

True, true bawaahhhaaa...

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